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2 MuCh 2 tHiNk !!

What is happening these days... my shimla trip gave me so many thoughts that i cannot possibly write them down.. there is so much that I can think about.. and there is so much that i think i have forgotten... i come to think about it. and i feel there is so much load on my head that it would burst under pressure...

Me, sushant, waquar and tushar.. kept talking about life and ppl and relationships and whatever we could think of... i came to know about things which they think about, how they think about them.. and how they want to take care of those.. there is so much that i cannot even think of writing everything in here... we talked about.. who is an intelligent person... who do we think would be the ideal girl for marriage... why do we men want a different woman for a girlfriend and for a wife... tushar in his blog has writted about emotional dependence as well.. which we discussed in the bus on our way to shimla and i do not even remember that discussion...

i guess i am better off talking about it then writing it...



may be continued


DiWaLi - A DeSi pOiNt 'O' ViEw

Thanks to my dear friend Tigeross !!! i got this email where I see the same old Ramayana in a new avtaar !!! Can call it the remix Ramayan !!! Here it goes !!!

A young second generation Indian in the US was askedby his mother to explain the significance of "Diwali"to his younger brother, this is how he went aboutit...

" So, like this dude had, like, a big cool kingdomand people liked him. But, like, his step-mom, orsomething, was kind of a bitch, and she forced herhusband to, like, send this cool-dude, he was Ram, tosome national forest or something... Since he wasgoing, for like, something like more than 10 years orso.. he decided to get his wife and his bro along...you know...so that they could all chill out together.

But Dude, the forest was reeeeal scary shit... reallyman... they had monkeys and devils and shit like that.But this dude, Ram, kicked ass with darts and bows andarrows... so it was fine. But then some bad gangstaboys, some jerk called Ravan, picks up his babe (Sita)and lures her away to his hood. And boy, was our man,and also his bro, Laxman, pissed... And youdon't piss this son-of-a-gun cuz, he just kicks assand like... all the gods were with him... Soanyways,you don't mess with gods. So, Ram, andhis bro get an army of monkeys.. Dude, don't ask mehow they trained the damn monkeys... just go alongwith me, ok... so, Ram, Lax and their monkeys whipthis gangsta's ass in his own hood. Anyways, bythis time, their time's up in the forest..andanyways...it gets kinda boring,you know... no TV ormalls or shit like that. So,they decided tohitch a ride back home... and when the people realizethat our dude, his bro and the wife are back home...they thought, well, you know, at least they deservesomething nice... and they didn't have any bars orclubs in those days... so they couldn't take them outfor a drink, so they, like, decided to smoke andshit...and since they also had some lamps, they litthe lamps also... so it was pretty cooool... you knowwith all those fireworks... Really, they even had somelocal band play along with the fireworks... and youknow, what, dude, that was the very first, nokidding.., that was the very first music-synchronizedfireworks... youknow, like the 4th of July stuff, but just, morecooler and stuff, youknow. And, so dude, that was how, like, this festivalstarted."


Do I mAke U sMiLe :)

I am wondering what this blogging thing is all about...Is it about sharing the philosophies (i think i have spelt it incorrectly) of life... or the things which make us think and think and think... i do not remember the last time i laughed after reading something on the blog of tushar or mine... why !!! I think I am adding to the sadness already there by always putting in the things which make the smile go away from my face and the face of the ppl who are reading this blog...and making them think and write about things that i initiate thoughts on...

Well Well Well... what am i thinking today.. i am thinking about putting in something that brings a smile to the face of the ppl who read it... and what could be better then one of the small discussions i had with a friend last night...

She was telling me that the tall girls do not have any brains at all... and then i came up with my theory about God after her statement... AND I think God is short in height... actually when he makes tall girls he is not able to reach the head coz the girl is tall and that is why tall girls do not have their share of grey matter... hehehehe... no offence to anyone please... and i hope some relegious group does not get me arrested for writing such comments about God...

Ok.. here is more to smile and laugh about....
Read it... looks long but its really good.....

"Your name?"
"How do you spell it?"
"Slow, slow, T?"
"No, D."
"Is that T as in Tom, or D as in Dennis?"
"No, not Dennis, my name is Dinesh."
"I know that. I am asking you, is that a T as in Tom, or D as in as in Detroit?"
"I don't know who Tom is, and I haven't been to Detroit. I just came to the US from Madras."
"OK, OK, I know that. Is that T-I- or D-I- ?"
"D. D-I-. D-I-N-E-S-H."
"Is that your last name or first name?"
"Uh? Dinesh is my name."
"OK. What is your LAst name?"
"That is my first and last name. Dinesh."
"Then, is your name Dinesh Dinesh?"
"No. My name is Dinesh."
"I told you, Dinesh. I always had the same name, from birth till now.
DINESH. That's my name."
"OK, what is your family name?"
"Family? Family name? My family doesn't have a name."
"What do the neighbors call you?"
"Not you. Your whole family. What do they call your family?"
"Beedida bhat'rr."
"So, that is your family name. Do you understand?
" How do you spell that?"
"Spell what?"
"B.D. whatever you said, what your neighbors call your family."
"Oh, that ... Beedida bhat'rr.
"What do you need that for? It only means 'the brahmin who makes beedis.'"
"What are B-Ds?"
"Not B-D. Beedi, is like a cigarette, you see, they roll the tobacco in a leaf and tie a thread around it. 25 in a kattu."
"25 in a what?"
"Kattu, or katta, whatever. Like a bunch, you see. If there is even one less or one more, my father could always tell without counting. He then taught me how to do it."
"I am not worried about your 'cutter' or whatever.
"I told you, Dinesh."
"OK, OK, I don't want to go over this again. What is common to the names of all the members of your family?"
"They are all in Sanskrit. My first sister is Suneetha, the second sister is Sumathi ... "
"Not about the language. When you write your name, and your sister writes her name, what do you two have in common?"
"We have the same handwriting. Even my father can't tell our handwritings apart."
"Blast it! What is your father's name?"
"What does G.K. stand for?"
"His name, Gopala Krishna."
"Then what is Nettar?"
"That is our house name."
"House name? Aha, does every one at your house have this name?"
"It is not our name. It is the name of our house. Strictly speaking, it should be Honnadka. But my father was too lazy to change it. My father was born in Honnadka, but, see, my grandfather was born in Nettar."
"What was his name?"
"I told you, G.K.Nettar."
"Your grandfather was also called G.K. whatever?"
"No. That is my father."
"Then what is your grandfather's name?"
"Govinda Bhat. See, my relatives still call me Mangalore Govinda.
Because it is a tradition to name the first son after his grandfather.
All the brothers of my father have done this. So, we have Honnadka Govinda, Jogibettu Govinda, Kanchodu Govinda, and I am Mangalore Govinda."
"So, then, your name is Mangalore Govinda, not Dinesh."
"No. My name is Dinesh. Mangalore Govinda is how my relatives call me.
That is not my NAme."
"What do they call your sister?"
"What? You said her name is Sooneetha."
"Yes, that is her name, Suneetha, but we call her Ammanni."
"Is that her nick-name?"
"No. she doesn't have a nick name. Only our neighbor's daughter has a nick name. She is called 'soote'. She is very active. That's why."
"What about your brother?"
"I have no brothers. But then, you can count all those Govindas as my brothers too. See, they are really kind of my brothers."
"OK, what are their names?"
"The oldest one, he is my big brother. He is called GovindaNNa."
"Govind Anna? Then Anna is his last name."
"No, ANNA, not anna. ANNA means big brother."
"What is his NAME?"
"His name is Govinda Bhat."
"Then your last name is But."
"Not but, Bhat, B-H-A-T. But that's not his name, you see."
"If that's not his name, what is it? Why does he have it in his name?"
"Bhat simply means he is a brahmin. He might as well write Rao,like his father does, or Sharma, like my father's second brother does."
"How does he write his name in official papers?"
"Nettar Govinda Bhat. That's how he writes it."
"How does his father write it?"
"Nettar Venkata Subba Rao."
"Aha, I can see now. Your father is G.K.Nettar, his brother is Nettar something Rao... your last name is then Nettar. Aha, I got it."
"But Nettar is not the last name. It is the house name."
"I don't care. Tell me one last time, what is YOUR last name?"
"But I told you, my last name is the same as my first name, my only name, Dinesh."
"Then, I am going to write Nettar here. I don't care if it is your house name, your grandfather's name, your dog's name, whatever. It is your last name. How do you spell it? N-E-..."
"N-E-T-T-? Is that T as in Tom or D as in Dennis?"
"My name is Dinesh, not Dennis."
"AARRGGHHHHH. Do we have to go through this again? Here, write it down."
"That's it. From now on, you are Dinesh Nettar, Dinesh is your first name, and Nettar is your last name. OK?


MeT A fRiEnD

Met miss super intelligent yesterday. Strange si feeling thi... to go ahead and meet someone who have never seen, but talked to... so i reached her place in the evening, ofcourse with some guidance from her... and met her... it was pretty normal... as if we were not meeting for the first time but knew each other for a while.. actually we know each other for a while... we've been interacting on the phone and thru emails and chat.. so no hassles.. this is was another part of her that i met yesterday.. first impression of someone who wrote that loooooooooooooooooooong email about women in india.. and what are they upto and all those things... the chats and the talks told me about a person who was very cheerful, and bubbly, and intelligent, and someone who wanted to make it big in her life... and when i met her yesterday... i met a very sweet girl, who was a kid at heart and was smiling and laughing while telling me about her Goa trip... lovely fotos though... and i managed to steal one of them for myself too...

its good to be friends with ppl who have everything that you need in a friend... they can be serious when you are in that mode.. they can cheer you up when you are sad... and would also do all the stupid things in this world to make you wonder if they are the same ppl who were so different a while ago... somehow this is a quality that i feel we all look forward to in our friends.. and thank God, most of the ppl i call friends understand all these flavours of life..

God Bless them ALL !!!

Amen :)


GoT a caLL !!!

Today a very good friend of mine gave me a call... Though we do not get the opportunity to talk a lot these days.. but she always makes it a point to read this blog and keep herself updated with what is happening in my life ( how sweet of her ) so what was i saying.. she today found out that i was down with chicken pox and first thing that she did was call me to find out how was i....

though i am fine... back in office.. but this concern was very touching.. and i was really happy to get this call... good friends are so rare to find these days... i really cherish the ones that i have.. God bless them all...


bAcK 2 WoRk

Tommorow i am going to join office after two weeks... Its feeling a li'il awkward.. infact i am feeling tired only at the thought of it.. sitting on those chairs which make a normal person feel too tired after a day's work !!!
anyway...i need to take care of a lot of things..

this chicken pox... one of the worst times of my life...


MiXeD eMoTiOnS

How many times in our day, our week... we go through extreme emotions.. we are smiling at one moment.. and the very next moment we feel that our eyes are wet...
why does that happen...
when does that happen..

do i remember the last time it happened to me.. i do not.. but i remember that it happens with me. a lot.. specially when i am watching a movie about some sport.. when the team which were always treated bad finally wins in the end !!! i know i can cry if i am watching that movie alone... but emotions do run high... real high....


ViRGiNiTy : DiGNiTy OR LaCk Of OpPoRtUNiTy

My thoughts from ORKUT about a topic that we can keep discussing about... its worth it.. but would it reach a conclusion.. i don't know...

(*_*) 10/18/2004 10:25 PM
The thread for sure invokes some serious thoughts.. but I would like to understand why do you have to start off something that is worth talking about anonymously !!!C'mon !!!!About marrying someone who is a virgin or not.. i guess that takes the back seat if you think that you can spend the rest of your life with the person.. getting married is a big decision and each and everything that might cause a damage to your relationship should be thought about... Its very hard to be honest very upfront to the person you are about to get married.. why? the reason is the fear of rejection !!!I would like to know from the gentlemen who have written posts here : Have you told all your girlfriends about your previous affairs.. about how many times you kissed your Ex. or even slept with her?
I had a tough time doing that in my previous relationship.. and we almost broke up after i said the truth !!! Things still did not work out well... but the point that i am trying to make here is that.. its easier said then done.. I respect each and every person here who says that the past of their life partner would not make a difference in their opinion and they would still go ahead and marry !!!

(*_*) 10/18/2004 10:36 PM
Oh.. and yes.. i would marry someone who has the guts and honesty to be upfront about her past.. in fact that is going to make me respect her more then i would have otherwise !!!

(*_*) 10/24/2004 11:24 PM
This is a topic that we can continue discussing on till infinity... Girls would most of the time assume that the guys have already slept with their girlfriends whenever they had one.. and boys would also assume the same.. we for some reason do not stop there and ask our partner if that really happened.. the fear of rejection stops us from asking this question.. and most of the time.. because we ourself have been physically close to person in our past we usually avoid talking about this topic...
Like most of us around.. i also would like to have a wife who has not slept with her boyfriend.. and i am sure the girl who marries me would be expecting the same.. but the ground reality is the most of the time in our relationships we get physically close and makes it getting out of them difficult... at times we suffer the feeling of guilt after it as well.. even though we had enjoyed every kiss which happened...
now what i feel i need to understand is that just like me my wife would also have a past and she might or might not have been physically close to her boyfriend... whatever said and done.. i would like to look at a future together and make that present better and not keep sticking to the past... it happened... its over... if she and i are willing.. we might not even let it effect our lives... words like trust, faith, commitment, love, truth, which seem only mere words after a break up... take their true shape after you have that special someone in your life...

(*_*) 10/24/2004 11:56 PM
(This post was a response to a post by Richa)
Guys would have reason to sleep around with every woman they go around with.. and Girls if not with the same frequency, but would still go ahead and have sex... Talking about why it happened.. and why someone still managed to be untouched is something that is completely personal in nature... Cannot classify it between the sexes.. though there might be reasons why guys are seen more interested in it then females...
I did not have sex so far and I am not ashamed of it... I do not say i have reasons to be proud of it either... and i am sure.. if there are other men in this forum who have not slept with some girl would have reasons to be ashamed or be proud of the same...

(*_*) 10/25/2004 4:42 AM
(This post was a response to a post by Tarun where he said that given a choice he would prefer to choose the non-virgin girls...)
@ Tarun : What do you mean by Choose the non-virgin girls ? I mean what do you think.. you will have women lined up in front of you with tags stating how many men they slept with or did not.. and for that matter.. how many guys would be true to the woman they are about to marry about their pre-marital affairs and how many times they had sex. Come to terms with life... what is a fact is a fact and if it happened in the past it better stay there... And not effect the future you have to have together... Also, if a guy goes ahead and sleeps around with 10 different women. he would be labelled a casanova by his friends and he would have a lot to boast about.. but if the same is done by a girl.. the same guy would not be too far away from calling her a whore and making sure that he tells the same to all of his friends... And at the same time would try to lay her down too... C'mon guys... when we talk about being practical i would still say tht being practical means taking the truth head on and see what is the best you can make out of it ..by either leaving it and accepting it...


HoW mUcH is ToO MuCh !!

Good question.. ahan... can you draw a line..

got into this conversation with a friend last week.. and she did not want her husband to keep asking her questions about where she was wat was she doing... etc. etc...... one very very valid point that she had was that there should be a lotta trust in the relationship which removes that need of questions... coz you know whatever your partner is doing is right and he she would come back to you and tell you... but then it also depends on a person to person... my wife or girlfriend might like to update me on what happened in her life weekly and i might to hear it from her daily... what happens in that kinda scenario... where and how do i draw a line... that this is something that i should ask and this is something that i shouldn't... i feel that guys are more insecure in relationships and girls are more loyal...by and large.. not taking the examples of the few that i know of and one of them i lived.... so we would like to know what our better half is doing... what is she upto... right at the end of the day what matters is how much trust and faith do we carry along with us.. but also that talking and sharing are two things that build that up !!!!

dunno how much logic that made.. but the thought is still there in my mind...


... here i am... writing after a few days... infact i really really wanted to write yesterday... why.. coz... i drove to the office yesterday on a very very beautiful delhi winter morning... me driving into the fog on the DND... cars over taking me vanishing into nowhere.. and the ones that i overtook vanished again somewhere behind me... was driving with the window open and the air was so so good.. and i was listening to one of my favorite songs... Smash Mouth : All Star...wao :)

Hey now you're an All Star get your game on, go play
Hey now you're a Rock Star get the show on get paid
And all that glitters is gold
Only shooting stars break the mold

It's a cool place and they say it gets colder
You're bundled up now but wait 'til you get older
But the meteor men beg to differ
Judging by the hole in the satellite picture

The ice we skate is getting pretty thin
The waters getting warm so you might as well swim
My world's on fire how about yours
That's the way I like it and I never get bored

Hey now you're an All Star get your game on, go play
Hey now you're a Rock Star get the show on get paid
And all that glitters is gold
Only shooting stars break the mold

Left for jaipur yesterday evening.. had to really rush to take the bus at 1900 hrs... but got it... nice comfy drive in the silent as a snake volvo.. did not feel tired at all.. checked into the room at 0015 hrs and slept peacefully... Got up in the morning and rushed to the office...and found out that there was no one here at 0900 hrs... forgot that the office timings here are 0930 to 1800 hrs... anyway.. am right now waiting for assistance in getting connected to the net... some issues with the proxy or the ip that i am using...help is on its way !!!

i at times wonder what is there in jaipur that attracts so many ppl to this city.. i find it as good or as bad as the other cities i have been to... but the nicer things include.. some beautiful forts... n number of shops for precious stones... the bright colourful clothes... and the food..mmmmmmm...
i do not get time to visit any of these though... always am so busy doing something or the other while... i am here... like today i have my meetings starting at 1600 hrs and dunno till when i will continue.. would try to complete the tasks today so that the guys in the team here can enjoy their off tommorow.. and if i stay back.. i would just go ahead and visit the Amer Fort.. i have passed through that area a couple of times but did not get a chance to visit it.. Am i going to get an opportunity tommorow...

let us C....



A thought just passed through my mind...

I don't know what I want.. But I know what I don't want...

Does that make sense... is this something that happens with u too?

I am going to Jaipur tonight for two days.. got some training sessions to take.. two processes that I have written need to be implemented there... going alone... just that time that i need or did not need with myself... there is nothing that i have on mind to spend the evenings. i should be through with work by 1900 hrs and then nothing.. get back to the hotel.. watch tv.. and talk to myself..
what should i be thinking about..
can i plan it?
what triggers a thought...
what am i writing... hehehehe.. funny... nevermind..


wOrDs oF WiSdOm !!!

First one from the series of Dohas that you will see on this page...


(It is in our power to do the KARMA, but we do not have any control over its success, like in the game of backgammon, we only have control over the dices but not the bet)



And this is Aro, Me and Anmol ( left to right) @ Sahastradhara.. Again.. Narang took this foto... Posted by Hello


cRuSh !!!

I like someone.... call it a crush... she is pretty... she is intelligent.. AND she is leaving delhi very soon... i guess another week or so...

Not sure if she should know about it or not.. does it make sense.... still thinking...

I M LeArNiNg...mAtuRiTy, Age, WomEn, gOaLs....

Thanks to Neha Issar, one of the very two email friends I have.. i came across a completely different class of the Indian Women.. something that i always knew was around.. but was never fortunate enough to be a friend of one or even know one of those.. but Neha... she literally opened my eyes and introduced me to a new world ( atleast for me) and I can never thank her enough for this....

What follows is a very long email which she wrote.. but every word is worth reading and makes a lot of sense... no point wasting this in my mail box.. its real worth would be when whoever reads this blog reads thru that email... Thanks Neha.. and i am sorry again...

Hi Prashant,
let me start with the first thing that is on my mind right now...ur
discussion or argument or whatever regarding the maturity issue.. While I do agree with you on some points i was taken aback by you thinking
and stating..."if the gals are more mature then why are they not talking
about career and slogging to reach somewhere.. " who told u they are not
talking about careers???? I am surprised in this age you are still able to
make this statement..and I was thinking why is it difficult for my old
relatives and aged aunties and uncles to digest that at 23 i am not thinking
of marriage but ready to commit about 5 years for my PhD!!!!!! I had no idea
people my age also have this notion that an Indian girl does not spend a
pinch of time and effort thinking and worrying about her future in terms of
career!!!!.And believe you me I can not be called and exception because I
know a dozen more girls who are even more ambitious than I am and they are
like good looking girls!!(just to rule out a possible theory that brainy
girls may not have much beauty and so they have to think of careeer coz
they are conventional!!)..See about maturity ..I don kno what can be termed
as a "mature" thought?? It is a relative term I think ...maturity comes with
circumstances and not age...for e.g the eldest child generally is more
mature,responsible...a child who has lost his father when young grows up to
be more responsible and mature earlier in life ...so on and so forth..there
are many such examples that I cite..but then this is also a universally
acknowledged fact that women..girls in general are more mature...coz they
are meant to be so u see...even a male ur age if ever decides to settle down
would essentially look for this quality ..would want the girl to be mature
enough to.. or, shall I say it in your words..." hoping that the girl
understands that job would take priority for sometime..." at the same time
it is ironic that the same indian metropolitan male will not understand when
maybe the woman has to spend time on kids..household..inlaws...other
chores..and the romance fizzles out ..so your average metropolitan male
looks for a mature woman but is not completely sure whether he would be able
to demonstrate the same level of maturity..so maybe thats why women consider
themselves to be more mature than men..afterall they were meant to be so as
i said..to be the wives..who cook..clean..wash....keep inlaws happy..keep
husband happy ..as also the mother who bears and raises kids..worries about
girls marriage ..son’s job/career....etc .etc.. it was so convinient for you
to state or rather assume that women/girls don't slog for a career knowing
somewhere ( i am sure) that u r so wrong..but even if u were right well did
u ever question why men are never even expected to maybe plan the days menu
for lunch ..dinner..decide what dal to cook…worry that children ..husband
will not have clean clothes to wear if she dos’nt wash the big heap of
laundry even on a Sunday..i mean there are so many things an average Indian
male does not even think of thinking that he may have to do if ther were no
mother ..sister..wife to do those !!but u know a women do earn bread at
times..she does file incometax returns….she does drive kids to school…she
does arrange for an electrician..plumber..i mean males today in some
households are not totally indispensable …this is not to say that women
are…they complement..u see but to put it in few words..women ..since they
have to assume multiple roles become exposed to numerous and varied social
/emotional and professional pressures and so they reach a level of maturity
faster..easily..just as if u are exposed to numerous strains of a disease
causing microorganism u develop immunity faster …or just as cockroaches have
been exposed to different poisonous chemicals (diff brands of pest control
sprays etc..) they are now not killed by them any longer ..immune to them…so
they have developed a more "mature" immune system!!!(hehehehe..i am sorry
this was quite weird an example I know)..so its just this factor to a major
extent… circumstances ..and thus in the socio economic set up that we live
in it is quite obvious that the women will be more mature at times....men
may be too..but..

Anyways we can discuss endlessly on this topic I think. quite thought

yaa and regarding where I am. ..well I must say Prashant either u
underestimate ur country too much or the female population of your
country!! There are almost as many women today in India doing research and
science as men…and it is very much possible to hear of a girl in India who’s
done her MS in biotech and going to do PhD ..of course the avenues are not
as developed here yet ..so u may find more prospects abroad but it is just a
matter of time I think..I am very much in India..right now..did my post grad
here only…however am now going to start my research work in Paris..i will
leave for Germany in Feb..for a conference and workshop and subsequently for
Paris..its basically Malaria research..i don kno if u have heard of
EMBL..European Molecular Biology Lab..my PhD will be conferred form there
and I will be based in the Pasteur Institute Paris..this is the same where
Louis Pasteur worked..the person who developed vaccination .first against
rabies...and following whose principle of Pasteurization we all boil the
milk in our houses before refrigerating it!!!!

my reaction.. i do not underestimate my country or the women in my country at all.. but I acted like a toad in the well and did not realise there is more to the world and women then i knew... thanks again for helping me out..


jUsT LiKe DaT !!

Today has the been the day of some research.. a li'il bit of coding.. checking some formatting.. adding some content.. and making things look better.. no ! No ! not talking about work.. but about the blog that i am writing on.. went through a couple of blogs to gain knowledge and then added the same to mine..

Special thanks to

1) t.d. miller @ http://madtechspeaks.blogspot.com/ ( for inspiring me to add some more content to my blog)

2) Zilch @ http://bane3.rediffblogs.com/ ( for inspiring me to add the small cat at the right top of the screen).
Also she is someone who has been writing comments regularly on my blog, I have also visited her blog a number of times.. Boy you should look at the number of comments every post on her blog has.. very popular i guess !!! But I have not been able to find out who she is... Hey Zilch.. if you read this.. do lemme know :)

Will write more...


MoRe YeArS = mOrE MaTuRiTy oR nOt

I got into a very interesting conversation with a friend of mine a few days back..
She was saying that men are not matured... infact lemme start from the beginning.. she told me that there is a friend of hers who is really really attracted to a guy 15 years elder to her.. and the question was why?The answer came as because Guys of that age are mature and experienced.. and all those things...she is about an year older to me.. and says that she gets into intelligent conversations with me only because she is very mature... also another thing that came up was that at one age say 25, a man would be less mature then a woman..

i want to debate this topic... i would like to understand what factor would age play in make someone mature.. am i more composed and mature by the virtue of my age.. or does that depend on things other then that too...

Lemme list the things that an average Indian metropolitan Male would be thinking of when he is 25:
1) Get stability in career and slog for the next 1-2 years before settling down.
2) might like to get married to his sweetheart in case going around with the dame.
3) Look at the feasibilty of getting a house or a car.
4) A relationship... maybe maybe not.. but hoping that it does not take a lot in terms of time.. hoping that the girl understands that job would take priority for sometime...

What would a girl at 25 be thinking of..
1) when would she get married?
2) An affair.. no way... its time to settle down..

I am leaving this post incomplete.. i do not remember what all did we talk about.. but the discission was turning into an argument..

I would like to understand would it be fair to generalise that men are more or less mature at an age X then women.. and if you are older then someone else.. you are more mature as well !!!!

May be continued.....


a pRoMiSe 2 mYsELf

First time after joining IBM i stayed back late till 2030 hrs to meet a deadline.. why did i have to do it.. because of my laid back attitude.. will not let that happen again.. need to gear up and show the world that I am as good as or even better then what I am looked at..


hAvE sOmE fEaR... d'PALIO iS hErE

(*old post.. re-entering bcoz of some formatting issues...)

Ok.. so a Happy Prashant is writing after quite a few days.. And the occasion is...MY CAR HAS A DECK...and its quite good.. here is what I have...

The Head Unit:

The Rear Speakers:

The Front Speakers:

And the CD Changer:

Its looks decent and the sound is mind blowing.. and I do not think i even need any amplifier or a sub-woofer unit to get any base.. the rear speakers with the front component system gives me enough to rock my world !!!

Jealous? ...you have to be :)

bAcK fRm jAiPuR

Back from a hectic schedule...
Went to jaipur to visit the Hexacom's Office.. Another feather in Bharti's Cap... anyway... work aside..
I found jaipur very polluted.. just could not walk there in the evenings... too much of smoke and smog.. that is when i felt that changing from Diesel to CNG actually has helped Delhi a lot.. and one thing very common.. the creepy Autowalas.. would like to charge you a fortune for something that is worth peanuts.. was accompanied by a guy frm office.. Vinay..

The best part was that we did not take a proper meal these days.. we lived on Lassi, Gol Gappas, Dal Moth, Sweets, Pyaaz Kachauri.. it was good.. the only time we ate proper meal was in the first day in office.. I had the opportunity to visit the only temple in the world for Lord Brahma and the Ajmer Sharif..

Will write in details about the trip a li'il later.... Gotta go for now !!!!


i yUm iN jAiPuR !!!

Left for Jaipur yesterday night.. After this journey I would suggest any one and everyone travelling to Jaipur to take the Volvo.. very comfortable.. and slept peacefully in the bus.. the only issue being that you cannot get fresh air in that bus coz the windows do not open !!! huh...
Anyway.. i am at a pretty decent place called the Neelam Hotel near Ganpati Plaza.. one of the hep places in Jaipur.. came to the office early morning today.. around 0930 hours.. and working since.. Had a pretty neat lunch in the office.. and waiting for the guys to get free.. and then will take a training session !!! Will write more..


my thoughts from Orkut.. compiled here.. about community service !!!

Ideas Opinions Plans Objectives 10/7/2004 11:07 PM
Thanks Richa for starting this thread !!!
This is what I have been thinking for doing for a while.. The Traffic around sector-18 is a mess on Weekends.. I would like to assist the Traffic Police in regulating the traffic around the red-lights... and inside the sector-18 market... The other day I saw an old man on the Atta red light with a lot of handouts and a small Mike with him.. and he was making sure that the ppl were stopping at the Red light.. they were behind the Stop Line.. were wearing seat belts... I used to see some students taking up a similar task in Delhi a few years back.. but I guess they stopped somewhere... If this can be done in NOIDA the busier of the CrossRoads.. I feel we can make a difference.. Does not take anything but some commitment and time !!!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
In for it !!! 10/8/2004 2:01 AM
Great Idea Neha..
No offence but this is something that needs a lot of preperation and time which I doubt how many ppl would be able to part with...

i am just trying to list down the things that we need to start moving ahead:~ Identify areas we need to work in.~ Locate the children and then seek permission from their parents to gather them in a group and teach.~ As we understand we cannot make a difference in a day, we need to monitor how many of the children who started off are continuing. Which might translate into chasing them or their parents and convincing them to stay in that classroom. We are not looking at spending that one hour in some weekend.. It means that one hour every weekend for dunno what time frame...~ Gather books, stationary and material to facilitate the cause. Also roster your sessions...

I do not see all the above points necessary as hurdles but as things which need to be worked at with a lot of patience and time. and to be very frank. all this seems mammoth till we have a big group...
Let's brain storm and find ways to work it out in the most efficient way !!!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
(*_*) 10/8/2004 5:04 AM

hmm...Rohit that is a good input.. we have to learn and educate from our past experiences.. What Neha talked about makes a lot of sense.. but that requires the kinda effort that weekend community service might not be able to give...
I am sure with our inclination and commitment towards making a change.. we sure will reach somewhere.. might not reach poor children or slums.. but somewhere jahan hum kuch kar ke dikha saken.. there is a lot of energy and time that we have.. and if used properly can make a difference...
What i would suggest folks is think of things which we as a youth brigade can take up... We might like to start with focussing on the simiar age group itself and so called educated ppl who have with time forgotten that they also have some responsibilies towards the environment and the city they live it..in addition to the families they are supporting and the friends they go out with

Kuch zyada bol gaya kya !!! Maffi chahta hoon..
(*_*) 10/15/2004 3:07 AM

In sector-19 i get a paper called Neighbourhood Watch every week... i was reading that paper today and found a news item about some NGOs getting together for Child Welfare.. Something similar to what Neha mentioned.. the NGO in NOIDA doing this is "Nai Disha" or something.. i will try to find out more and post it here !!!!

(*_*) 10/27/2004 9:05 PM

here is what I have been thinking for a long time...
Everyone who talks about community service, only talks about doing something for the under privileged children, teaching them and all the things.. which i respect and appreciate. But how many times do we think about ppl who are educated, a part of the so called high society and still act like idiots. examples:
1) Wrong parkings in busy market places (anyone who has visited sector-18 should have noticed this)
2) Driving like maniacs (ditto for sector-18)
3) No respect for traffic signals (in NOIDA especially)
4) No respect for traffic rules ( again in NOIDA especially)
I have seen myself cursing and cribbing all the time when i move in a market area about these things but have i made any effort to see if this can be taken care of... NO !!!

My idea of doing something for the society would be join hands with the authorities and make them realise that the most important part of this society, The Youth, is with them and is more then willing to work with them to help realise their mission.
I do not know if anyone would agree.. but doing something that everyone is doing is not my piece of cake... I would like to know if anyone else is in sync with my thoughts...
10/27/2004 11:18 PM

I see what you are trying to say.. But 'joining hands with authorites' is not always the best experience in our society. I am not being a cynic here but just trying to be pragmatic. Most of us are working full time or are studying. By associating with an NGO related to education, It provides me an easy avenue to satiate my yearnings to give back something to the society.At the moment, I have been involved a little with this cause. I have seen some real things happening with my own eyes. So, I would like to continue with this for some time to come.Dont wanna chew more than I can digest :)As regards the things you have mentioned.. I think its more of an attitude issue within the society rather than a real problem. If inspite of ample parking space, people park their cars diagonally in a market, then you cant really go out & fight with them. Joining Hands with authorities .. I am really sceptical about that. These are issues of cultural nature.. & you can only educate people about that if they are willing. You cant enforce everything on the citizens.Thats my take on it. Anyways, if you plan to do anything.. Plz do check me out. Thanks.. & best luck for your cause.
(*-*) 10/27/2004 11:31 PM

I know... what you are saying is correct.. its not one of the easiest things to do.. as you gotta make ppl unlearn and understand their responsibility towards society... but that is what i call community service... About the attitude issue that you mentioned.. i guess you are a part of this society and a part of this attitude too... so if you are not doing something about it then you are encouraging it... I feel bad when i cannot do anything about people driving in high beams, or parking like idiots.. and always make it a point to let them know of a better way.. whenever i can.. had my good and bad experiences doing this.. but i think its worth it.. seeing me jump a redlight would make 15 others jump it too.. but if i stop.. and one more guy stops next to me.. it was worth it...

I am not going to fight anyone about why they did what they did.. but letting them know that what they are doing can be done in a better way.. would make a difference.. ppl would get angry, embarrased.. might start fighting.. but then that is something that i would be prepared for..
There are a thousand organisations working towards child education, for poor people, the under priviledged, but i do not see anyone working towards something that you crib about most of the time... Wondering why... we cannot start making that change which we want !!!

Anyway.. me alone cannot do anything... Might find lotsa people if it comes to taking care of the tasks that you mentioned... Just hoping for some more people who share my views and agree...
i wish you luck from the bottom of my heart and hope that you get all the satisfaction and happiness from what you are doing.. God bless !!


GetTiNg MarRiEd !!!

Last two days !!!
Four events...
1) Dipayan and Renuka getting engaged in Novemeber !!!
2) Then i get to talk to an old friend.. Himanshu Madan and he tells me that he got engaged to a girl called Shilpa Narang last sunday...
3) Mags calls up and tells me that she is getting married in the month of Feb... next year...

Seems that everyone s getting married.. another friend of mine.. Gaurav Marwaha is getting married i guess next month..

May be continued....



I have spelt Dipayan's name incorrectly at a few places.. his name is Dipayan and not Deepayan... ...About the other thing i wanted to talk about.. Its about a theft that took place in my friends house.. day before yesterday night.. Pretty scary !!!

HaPpY NeWs !!!

A couple of things to write about today...
First about one of the best NEWS of 2004 !!! No no .. i am not talking about Veerappan being killed in an encounter... Duh !!! Time to get into a meeting with Rajat... Lemme continue later !!!

Ok... i am back.. Good meeting.. What was i saying.. about a news.. and this is not about Veerappan getting killed in that encounter.. well to be frank.. i am happy that he is dead.. but coming back to the news that i was talking about.. before that i would like to give a brief history of the events to happen and the way they happened...

August 21' 2001: I reached Spectramind's delhi office to join as a Technical Support Associate and the person who entered the office with me was Deepayan Nag... We got introduced ourself.. talked more.. and found out that we just might be on our way towards a great friendship... Which happened... ok.. after our initial induction session for three days.. the entire batch of the new 120 ppl had to be divided into 4 groups for training.. we were hoping that we stick around in the training too and that happened... we did our 6 weeks training together.. and made our trainer Amrita Sharma look pathetic thanks to the kinda knowledge that we carried with us.. and then we had great VnA sessions with Pooja who was our trainer... Anyway.. by the end of our training we were three friends no Four... Me Deepayan Charu and Renuka Shekhar who used to hang out together... graduated to the operations floor and started working hard towards our individual career goals.. the way Dips used to handle calls was completely different from the way i used to .. and we had major arguments about that too at times...
With time we drifted apart, with our individual career interests and opportunities.. but managed to keep in touch.. during that time Deepayan and Renuka, used to spend a lot of time together.. and that time and togetherness kept on taking shape and they yesterday gave me THE NEWS that i had been waiting for !!!
Deepayan getting engaged to Renuka on the 11th of November.
I am really happy for both of them.. just the perfect couple.. Renu and Deepu.. i love both of them and i am not able to understand their kids would call me Mama or Chacha :) but whatever happens.. this is one wedding that i was expecting and is bringing a a lot of happiness in my life too..

Looking forward to Dipayan and Renuka spending their lives together.. happy today and ever after !!!


DeLhi bLoGgErS mEeT 5 !!

The DBM 5 is finally on!!!

I am planning to meet a group which is almost strangers to me on the 21st of October 2004.. I am nervous as well as excited... Basically its all about that small fear that I carry with me.. The fear of rejection... would I be accepted in that group.. Would this be a gang where I can stay without carrying the burden of expectations.. met and not met and all that crap !!! Dunno... i guess I would need to go ahead.. meet everyone and then let things take its own turn !!!

I am feeling like listening to a famous Dev Anand song right now...

Main Zindagi ka Saath nibhata chala gaya...
Har fikr ko dhooein mein udata chala gaya...

Beautiful !!!



hmm... writing today after a few days.. the days have been kinda hectic and did not feel like writing either.. here i am today.. came to the office at 1330 hrs after attending and shop warming ceremony... (is that the right word) One of very dear friends Virat has opened a showroom for StyleSpa in Faridabad and today was the grand opening.. so me Virat and Ankur got back together for the occasion... yes there were about 100 more ppl but we have a different bond between us.. done three shows together in DAV.. spent loads of time together in college and moved on our different career paths.. i did my masters in software systems... Ankur went on to complete his LLB from CLC, Virat continued to work on his CA... and we still managed to keep in touch.. though me and ankur spent more time together because we stay in NOIDA...
Virat could not meet us on all of the occasions... he stays in Faridabad that's why... anyway.. today we sat down together again talking about the old times... but for a short time period.. we are planning to meet again on sunday to catch up with old times..

I got the seat covers for my car yesterday... light fawn colour.. giving the car a very elegent look now.. i want to give the best to this car.. no hassles about the money but she should look good.. and feel great..
About the reactions and responses that i got from my friends after the previous blog.. most of them are of the opinion that Friendship is not about sciences.. its all about heart.. its about how you feel and how you make the other person feel... I Agree and I Disagree....

You can say that being friends is all about hearts.. taking care of each other.. being proactive... making sure you are the support whenever your friend needs it.. and all that.. but then I disagree coz all this cannot be done without a proper thought going into the entire relationship... i cannot take anything and everthing that comes my way just the way it is... i have to make things happen.. and that requires me to think.. make an effort so that me and my friends share the best of the relationship... yes emotions are there.. but if they are not controllable there is no point.. i can easily be labelled as insane if i do not have control over my emotions and feelings..
Another question that is coming to my mind now !!! Where do i stop.. how to draw that line being madness and sanity !!!

Where does the difference come from..

May be continued......


The sCiEnCe oF bEiNg fRiEnDs !!

Continuining with where i left yesterday...
What makes ppl click.. or tick... or stick..
What is chemistry all about... does it only have to lead to biology or can it also be the physics of two ppl laughing together.. and how far that laughter goes, or how soon the tears from the eyes drop to earth when your friend makes you cry, or is the friend fast enough to have his palm in the trajectry of the tear that just rolled out of eye and dropped from you wet cheek....

What is the science of being friends...

does it really get effected by history, should we really care that way back in 1987 my friend had another friend who (s)he really misses and i cannot fill that space whatever i do...

OR has it something related to Geography... whereever i go i will make new friends.. and forget the ones i made at the place i was staying before... Do i feel good about a friend if i am on a hill top.. and the same company irritates me if its too hot here in delhi...

Or Does Civics help me be a better friend.. do i learn from my friend about the best that he has.. and without a thought stop him/her from doing something which i feel is wrong.. what if there is a diference of opinion.. and leads to a heated atmosphere?

Do the principles of Economics come in friendship... more demand means the price going up.. translate this into.. If i need my friend more then yesterday then there are good chances that (s)he would not have time today...

Is it possible for me to calculate what my friend is going to do when there is decision to be taken... Can i predict my friend's behaviour.. but then if i can that means i do not need to know anything more !!! if i do not.. i might just hear the words.. Prashant you do not understand me...

Do i make my friend feel better if i talk to him/her in english.. or when i talk in Hindi, i would not be treated as a educated guy.. i mean.. If i say namaste to someone i meet for the first time.. what would be the impression... i just might get a surprised.. at times embarrased hello in return...

The subject of friendship... Still thinking !!!


fRiEndSHiP ~-+= Simple or complicated

Back again with somethings to write.. with some thoughts to share and with some to ponder upon.... A few questions that i am thinking about over and over again... ~ Why would you like to be selfless in a relationship? Any for that matter.. not particularly a boy-friend/girl-friend one.. be it two friends, brother sister anything... the question can also be put a li'il differently too.. why would you be selfish at sometimes and completely selfless at some other time...

~ I am wondering these days as to what does it take to keep a friend with you for life... i mean does that need some extra efforts to have friends... if this is true friendship wouldn't the other person know about your state of mind.. would (s)he not understand the priorities in your life...now these are expectations from me... and if they do not understand then they are not being friends.. and if i do not able to give anytime to them.. then i am not being a friend.. i think one of the two will come up to expectations (often unsaid) and the other would compromise (understood but not explicitely mentioned again).. i think this is what will happen when you are with a true friend..

i want to know and understand the term friendship.. what do you need to be a good friend.. wht do you do when you have a friend, who starts expecting things out of you and you are not in a position to fulfill them... leads to a heartbreak and a distance amongst friends...

I want to understand what happens if one of your friends who claims that he is the best friend that you ever had... is very obviously not happy with your growth.. and stops all communication with time...

i want to understand !!!


EuPhOrIa !!! MDI Gurgaon Live on 10th Oct !!!

Function: noun
Synonyms ELATION 1, exaltation, exhilaration2 an often groundless or excessive feeling of well-being and happiness
Synonyms elation, exaltation, intoxication

What you see above is what Euphoria means when I look it up in the Webster's Online Thesaurus...But I had the chance to watch the band play live at the MDI Gurgaon grounds yesterday night.. and they lived up to every meaning of the word Euphoria in the dictionary... Started at 2045 hrs a good hour and a half late.. but worth the wait..Palash started the show with a Shlok.. and then Vande Matram and then belted out hits after hits making the crowd there go crazy... i was right there in the front holding on to the barricade they had made.. and it was just too good!
I do not have the knowledge of music.. but i enjoy it with my soul in it.. and yesterday it happened again.. with songs like Dhoom, Gully, Kaise Bhoolegi mera naam, Mae Ri, Shanana, Raja Raani, Euphoria thrilled the audience.. and not to forget the songs like Damadum Mast Kalander, a beautifully remixed O Hum Dum Suniyo Re, Dil Chahta Hai, Koi Kahe Kehta Rahe, Om shanti Om, and yes... for the lovely couples out there. he sang Bheege Honth Tere as well... Coming to the angrezi gaana bajana... they had We will rock you ( the lyrics we messed up though), We don't need no education, SUMMER OF 69, The only thing that looks good on me, Its my life, With or Without you, You Sexy thing.. it was all there!

An evening well spent in the company of Dr. Palash Sen with lead Vocals, Gaurav Mishra (aka Gary) on Guitars, Debajyoti Bhaduri (aka DJ) on Base Guitars, Hitesh Madan (aka Rikki) on Lead Guitars, Some Verma (aka Tullu) on the drums, Prashant Trivedi( aka Lallu) on the Tabla, and Some Bhardwaj(aka Panju) on the Dholak. and not to forget the filled with energy MDI crowd with all the guests that came from wherever [:)]

Reached home only at 0100 hrs in the night.. but every second spent was worth it.. now waiting for the IIM Indore fest to begin in november.. which i might just attend if everything goes right



Well here is what happened to me yesterday when i was @ Haldiram's Mathura road in the evening... I went there to get some snacks for home on my way back home... When I entered i saw a girl standing there... did not really look what she looked like.. but the way she was standing there on the gate made it very obvious that she was waiting for someone.. Something inside me said that I should stop and say a hi to her, but then i was in a hurry and I moved on... bought my stuff which took about 20 minutes and while I was moving out.. i saw her back again !!! there she was standing.. still waiting for someone !!! well again i wanted to talk to her.. but was afraid how would she react to it.. and that is why i ignored my very strong urge to get into a conversation and moved out.. started the car and was driving on the lane in front of Haldirams to get back to the main road, and this time she was not there.. i thought that the person she was waiting for had arrived... and she had either left or was inside.. or something.. but the very next second I saw her walking at the side of that service lane.. still waiting... third time I felt like talking to her.. but dunno why the thought made me very nervous... and i decided to move ahead.. while i was driving past her.. i saw here turning and looking at me.. first time our eyes met... and i realised that she was very pretty... and was looking at me in my eyes... for a short second I looked at her and her eyes had a story to tell.. she had been waiting for a long while.. which i knew and her eyes were really sad that the person had not yet come... I felt that if I had gone ahead and talked to her.. it would not have offended her.. but instead given her some comfort and company which she was waiting for... not from me ofcourse, but from the person who she was waiting for... Anyway.. i kept driving.. dunno if her eyes followed me or not, but i knew that it was a lonely person (for that moment) that i left behind...


Getting Serious about writing now !!!

What next... what do i write about.. i guess i am kinda happy about the kinda ppl that i am meeting @ Orkut... there is so much common in the thought process of some of them and mine... but at the same time, i feel that they are intellectually ahead of me.. why am i thinking that way.. another school of thought is that i have wasted a lot of time watching TV, when i could have read something or written something, or for that matter talked to someone who was like minded or otherwise...i see so much of refined writing these days which is so close to the day to day life that i feel that i should do something to improve.. now the question comes what do i need to do to improve... or do i really need improvement... well i guess i might not... as i might be good at what i do.. and am respected and regarded.. and at the same time.. i also beleive that i am at some stage of evolution and am growing towards more maturity everyday.. which would make me learn from everyone around and the circumstances... will write more.. gotta go back to work right now..


wOrK hArD PaRtY hArDeR !!

Ok, I am back again with some more things that i wanted to write about..these are about me and what is happening to me.. 29th evening i spent with bhoomi and her friends.. rather our friends.. though i met one of these guys for the first time.. and Vandu, the other gal in the group of 4, was always pissed with me.. right after and during the time when mine and Bhoomi's relation was in the storm and then went for a toss... so i was kinda afraid talking to her and meeting up with her.. but it was better then i expected.. though felt a li'il out of place at times when these guys were talking about things that i did not have a clue about..it was a great evening.. went to Dilli Haat... one of my favorite places, and then after having some lite snacks there and strolling around.. we moved to Delhi's Devils.. had drinks, mocktails to be precise, danced for a while on the Hip-Hop music that the Dj was playing...it was a Hip-Hop night actually.. but it still did not stop me from doing some bhangra steps on the similar hip-hop beats.. i might have looked stupid but then we were only three of us dancing there.. me, vandu and bhoomi.. so basically it was great fun.. One of Bhoomi's friends, did not come, who we actually were waiting for.. he is the guy Bhoomi is kinda interested in.. marriage and all those things you see... how sweet !!! so we danced. we drank.. we talked.. and then moved to Eatopia, the great restaurant in IHC, Lodhi road... had chinese there and it was already 2300 hours when we left from there...so we rushed... had Meetha Pans @ chanakya, the place all three of us used to frequently visit a few years back...then dropped Vandu, then Sumit and finally bhoomi.. and i reached home by 0030 hours.. slept well that night.. it was great meeting a group which was so much fun loving, and had great friends..

Will meet them again sometime asap !!!

this weekend.. gotta take care of a few things in the new car.. and then maybe go out for a drive with mom-dad on sunday.. lets see how it materialises... my relatives would be looking at the new car for the first time.. lets see their reactions.. well most of them, and the world looks down upon this car because they think its too bad on mileage... but they do the mistake of comparing with the smaller Wagon Rs and the Santros. It officially comes with a seating capacity of 4+1 as compared of 3+1 in the other cars... then has bigger tyres and an engine which is about 100cc more then them, the kerb weight of the car is about 250 kg more then the Wagon and the Santro... The comfort, safety, space, feel good factor.. its just zooms past the Wagon R and the Santro.. Can i ask for more.. yes a few compliments may be.. hehehehehehe
Happy Weekend !!!


aN oLd bUt TrUe sToRy

This is from a trip that i had a few months back.. with three of my college friends... you can find some of the fotographs as well at this link : http://photos.yahoo.com/prashant_bhardwaj

Hi everyone... i have been thinking of writing something for a long time.. and here i am today... with my trip to Bhimtal... its a long story which should not have been cut short for any reasons.. so read it if you have time.. if not.. never mind..

Ok... so i am back from a trip to Bhimtal... it would be injustice to call it to Bhimtal because I do not think i left anything that was worth being at and we did not visit it.. after all i am expecting about 118 photografs to be developed for these two days.. and there have neet been any fotos taken in the night... so some real beauty is on its way from the fotographer's shop to mine...

we reached kathgodam at 7:30 in the morning on Saturday and took at cab to reach bhimtal in about 30 minutes.. checked in that hotel there after bargaining on the room cost.. so finally he agreed to 500 buks for the room.. cheap we thought.. but that was the start.. we go ready to move out of the room by about 1030 hours and after having breakfast at a neat resort which costed us about 200 bucks we moved to the point from where we could get a cab to the place from where we were planning to paraglide to naukuchiatal. Our bad luck.. the winds were not strong enough for adults to take that awesome route to the beautiful lake called naukuchital. ok so after waiting for like 2 hours we decided to move on... now that we were sure that we are not taking the normal route, we decided to trek down to the lake.. after walking downhill for about 45 minutes, we could reach, naukuchital... ammazing lake.. no big hotels, none infact.. just a few restaurants, some cabs, and a govt. guest house... so we decided to rent a shikara in that huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge lake and enjoy boating.. just 120 bucks for about 40 minutes... we were four of us, me Waquar, Ashish and Rupak... taking turns to row that boat and sit on the other edge as well enjoying the water.. lovely views, lovely water, beautiful boat.... but then it was already like 1500 hrs and our stomachs wanted some attention too.. so we asked the boatman as to where we could eat food.. he suggested us to visit a small shop/restaurant where the kadhi chawal was neat... we four of us ate like pigs there.. and were full upto the brim.. food so tasty and fresh.. just like our homes.. and what did it cost.. 200 bucks i guess... ya it was 200 bucks.. ok, now though we were sleepy there was a lot of gound to cover.. to start with we wanted to find out how to get back to bhimtal...

we talked to some of the cab drivers there and were more then happy to transfer us back to bhimtal in a mere 100 bucks.. but we were not willing to spend that kinda money on a cab... so we asked some ppl as to what was the distance to bhimtal... and here is what we hear.. 4 kms.. why do we need to hire a cab.. so though we were like a li'il tired and full of food.. we decided to move on... and walked about 2.5 kms before we got a cab which was coming back to naukuchiyatal.. travelled about 1.5 kms in that with 5 bucks a person and reached bhimtal back at around 4:30 i guess... now the question was what to do the entire evening... so we decided to go to sattal.. and spend the evening there... about 9 kms away it is also considered to be a great lake... we talked to a few ppl and took a maruti car for 250 buks to go to Sat-tal and back.. Waquar as always was the one to take a lead in bargaining and getting us the right rates... reach there after driving through the hills and enjoying the great weather.... in about 30 minutes... on our way.. saw a lake called Garud Tal which is full of snakes... and after that came the world famous Quote from our friend Rupak.. " thank God snakes do not fly":) what a darling rupak is.. one of the very few guys with a heart of gold ... anyway.. we moved from there... and reached Sattal... what an awesome place.. surrounded by very dense forests and a big lake in between.. we did not feel like boating there.. coz we already had done that a few hours back... so we decided to just stroll around the lake... and finally sat at one point with our feet inside the water.. this was soemthing that really relaxed us completely... no fatigue nothing... after staying there with our feet inside water for about 30 minutes we decided to come back to bhimtal and relax again... so we had tea.. and buransh ka sharbat.. which is supposed to clear your blood.. another one of the comments which Waquar made here.. when the shopkeeper told us what this sharbat does... Waquar was very prompt in asking him "Ek hi botel se saara khoon saaf ho jayega kya ?" The shopkeeper as hundreds of others did not have an answer to Waqua bhai's instant questions :)
so we moved from there and reached bhimtal back again in the late evening.. having nothing to do.. we sat at one side of bhimtal having chips.. and watching a delhi school teacher shouting her lungs out on some of the kids who were late to come back to the bus which was waiting for them to move from Bhimtal... after all that natak we moved to our hotel.. not sure of what we want to do next.. i bought a ludo and while we were taking our turns to get fresh and all... we were also playing the age old still interesting game of saanp seedi... ok though tired.. but still with a lot of energy we were thinkg what should we do next... being practical at this hour made us rest and not freak ourself out in the evening.. so after we decided there is nothing more that we want to achieve in that calender day we decided to arrange for a movie... so we rented a VCD player and got two CDs one Hum Tum and the other Aan.. strange enough.. the CD rent was only 10 bucks as compared to 30 bucks that i pay in noida... anyway.. we were all pleasently surprised that we could arrange for the movies.. and were planning to watch the movie after our dinner... so there we were out of our decent hotel room and out on thebank of the lake towards the Neelesh Inn where we had our breakfast... we had tipped the waiter intentionally in the morning so that he would take care of the food in the evening as well.. and so he did... though he was kinda tired after his days work... so we ate and ate and ate and managed to get a bill about 420 bucks after a stomach and neck full of dinner.. the 15 minute walk back to the hotel we were staying in helped us digest that food... ok so back to the hotel room.. and waiting for themovie to start... the CD player would not work... aaaaaaaargh we really wantd to watch hum tum... anyway... we did our own bit of RnD with the player an the data cable connecting the tv to the Player but it kept crashing like the Mig 21s these days... we could not watch the movie... and finally mananged to go to sleep at 2330 hours.

End of Day ONE.

Day 2:
Waquar woke me up around 7 and told me that it was raining outside and the weather was really cold... somehow i managed to get out of the blanket which in which i was.... (Blanket without a fan... and it was like 40 deg in Delhi... the thought brought a smile to me as well) and went outside.. to feel wht i cannot put in words... awesome is the only word that comes to my mind again and again... it was kinda drizzling outside and the air was pretty cold.. and i just want to get ready and g out of the room on the street to enjoy that day too... so the project to wake up the gentle giant Rupak and Ashish started.. and we would win only half the battle.. Rupak got up and me and waquar got ready during that time.... while rupak was getting ready and Ashish was still trying to get the answer to the famous Bollywood Question "Main Kahan hoon?" me and waquar got outside and went for a walk next to the bhimtal... cold and clean water.. cewl breeze... no noise.. only birds and water...and the occasional vehicles on the road next to the lake...lovely sight... we took like 20 minutes and then went back to the hotel... packed our stuff and checked out by 0900 hours... it was still raining but occasional drops and this time we decided not to go to the same resort we had breakfast and dinner at... so we went to the local market and entered a small time restaurant.. and ordered some paranthaas and bread omlette... it took at good 20 minutes for the breakfastto be served but when we had the first bite we knew it was every second worth the wait... again ate like pigs and reached the cheque of about 200 buks... but the breakfast could not have been better.. no way... now the rest of the day.... we hd to go to bhowali.. and then to nainital from there and spend the rest of the day in nainital. bt destiny and fate and planned something different for us.. we took a shared cab at 8 bucks per persn to bhowali and then decided not to visit the ghodakhaal mandir which we initially wantd to go to.. and took a maruti van to nainital instead... while talking to the driver we came to know about the places andchanged our mind.. hired the same cab to roam around uttaranchal.. and gather as mch a we could in that day.. so we wnt to ghodakhal.... this is a small temple and the learned say that the movie Baaz was shot here... dunno if you know it or not.. bt this the temple which has i guess the maximum number of bells in it.. over a lakh i guess... woooooooo man.. too gud.. spent about 30 minutes there and then moved towards Mukteshwar... we were right now at about 4000 feet and mukteshwar at 8500 feet... here we go... about two hours drive and 100s of bends on the dangerous roads... but the most beautiful views of orchids of apple, peach, apricots and what not... a temprature of 14-16 degs... we could not have asked for more.. and yes not to forget teh bunglows in these hills... awesome. you think youhave seen beautiful houses in delhi or nearby... then you gotta go there and surprise yourself.... so we reach mukteshwar and then back to bhowali and then to nainital... by about 6 in the evening... amazing awesome mind blowing 100 kms of drive in the hills....
as soon as we reached nainital... all teh four of us hated it ... add all the cars and ppl and hotels we had seen in the last 36 hours.. multiply it by 10 and nainital was still more then that... chandni chaowk is less crowded i guess.... anywa.y.. we just roamed around there... went for a swing in a giant wheel... which rupak found a li'il hard to handle... visited the naina devi temple... had dinner.. bought some squashes... and took the bus back to delhi....
End of DAY 2....
This was our trip... just the way it happened....
managed to take about 118 fotographs on the trip and spent around 1500 bucks person... including everything... cheap but mroe then we could ask for...
and yes... we four among us also plan to visit and cover the entire uttaranchal in 2004... interested ppl.. more then welcome to get in touch with us.......


A fRiEnD iN NeEd !!!

Continuing the thought on friends.. and how do they contribute to your being a better human being.. a few friends like Bhoomi, are the ones who would not need anything to give their best to you... they would always be there on matter how bad you have been to them... even if you want to talk to them after weeks they would still sound happy.. rather then complaining about where you were the entire time... there is always a lot of energy and enthu in them and that is something that gives you all the relief that you have been waiting for... How can i forget that she is my first love.. and because of the situations we just could not be together.. our relationship was not to be materialise as a marriage though both of us wanted it bad... After months of pain , and trauma... we realised each others need, and have matured to a relationship which is true friendship... she lives a life of her own.. which involves her new crushes.. the guys she likes.. the kinda guy she would like to get married to .. and we share those thoughts.. what a relationship... and at the same point of time.. i am most comfortable talking to her... I have more respect for her then most of the ppl i know for all what she has faced and has come out as a winner... A lot of ppl ask me, if you guys are so good together.. why don't you get married and all those things.. its a long story and the crux is that we are not supposed to be even friends, but i guess we value and respect each others presence in our lives so much that we need each other as the person who would listen.. who will be around.. afcourse life would go on the way it shoud.. but i would not loose a friend that i got in her... anyway...

Another type of friends.. Narang.. oops... Gaurav Narang... a friend and a competitor at the same time.. we started together in Hughes and worked very hard together to be Team Leads and then I moved out to IT software support and now to Process Consulting... and he at the same time he continued his efforts is today a Ops Astt. Manager with Hughes.. he deserves it anyday.. he is one person who has influenced me a lot and we have taken each others growth as our goals.. one grows then the other guy will not be jealous rather he would be happy for the other and work harder to be better then the other... We have moved ahead on parallel paths and what a race it has been....

A few more, who cannot be left out and have been around... one way or the other.. Gaurav Marwaha (My idol for dedication and hardwork), Meghana Jain ( a great designer.. awesome writer.. and a good thinker).. Waquar ( very calm composed no nonsense human being.. ), Sandeep Verma ( friends since class III.. great company to be with...), and there have been lots and lots of ppl who have contrinuted to my growth and success...

Other then all of these ppl there have been some who have left but only after giving me a lot of pain and agony.. friends who behave as if you are one of the most important person in their lives, and then back stab you.. again and again.. till the time you do not find it, you continue thinking that they really are friends.. but the moment you start know about things which you should not.. you loose faith and trust in them as well as friendship... Another Category... ppl who would not understand and be proactive about what you would need out of the friendship that you share.. and after one point when you have lost all hope and are moving out.. you are blamed that you do not understand, you do not treat ppl good.. and what not.. Some friends have a dream world of their own... they meet you.. get along well... then make a small world out of the thoughts that they have for you.. and then it crashes... coz the other person was never thinking that way... THE END of a sweet something that was moving towards a good friendship... they make their own worlds.. their expectations do not get fulfilled because of the other person not thinking that way.. and then they change... This is my side of looking at the entire set of episodes... There is another side to it.. the side which the ppl concerned with these would be able to tell more and then lemme know that I was insensitive their needs, i hurt them a lot, i was not listening to what they had to say.. and lots of things more which go well in way to say that i have been a bad friend..

dunno what i have written.. but i feeling a li'il better after writing.. i do not say i have been doing the right things all the time... but the truth is that i have lost a lot of faith and trust in being friends because of whatever has happened.. leaving li'il room for emotions in my life anymore !!!!

wEeKeNd CaMe & wEnT !!! 2 FaSt

Saturday and Sunday spent nicely...
Satuday spent doing nothing.. mostly sleeping.. and troubling my eyes with a lot of television.. all nonsense.. except a few programs like "The Amazing Race", "The next Action Star", even watched Munna bhai once again.. i have the CD so i can watch it whenever i feel like... Saturday night rocked.. Went to Gurgaon to a friends place where everyone from Hughes came.. all the Team leads.. new and old.. left or still there.. The managers, Ex-managers.. a gang of about 20 guys who had loads of fun the entire night.. movies, music, daaru (n/a for me), and tons of completely useless nonsensical talks... hahahahah.. it was great fun... Was planning to be back home by about 0200 hrs but managed to reach only at 0600... too tired.. and went off to sleep right away... had to get up @ 0800 as mama had to come over... which he did and i got up.. talked to him.. watched the movie Garv... and in the evening went to Sector-18 with mom for some homework for my car...

Got a remote locking system and a gear lock fixed.. it was great fun.. but the weekend seemed to be very short... today morning i got up at 0630 and got ready quickly... but dunno why am feeling very sad.. i guess i am feeling lonely... feeling as if there is no one around who would like to share my happiness with me... was remembering all the people who were in my life at one point of time.. calling themselves friends and turned out to be people who were only fakes... i am sad and angry both for being an idiot while making friends.. and trusting a lot of them for nothing.. but at the same time.. i cannot thank them enough for teaching me the kinda lessons which true friends cannot teach !!! God bless them all !!!


gOt iT yEsTeRDaY

So today I finally have what I was been waiting for... My brand new Palio... what a road presence that 1242 cc Car has... i mean its awesome... Very heavy car and that is why low mileage in terms of fuel.. but comfort, safety, styling, nothing at all has been compromised.. i am really in love...Dad has said a strict no no to taking that car for a trip for the next 6 months, or till the time he feels that I have control over the car and am driving it fine... hehehe.. this is kinda cute.. anyway.. i still am waiting for the registration to be done so that i can start bringing the car to the office.. but that is going to take another week or so.. and till that time.. my dame is going to be parked @ home...

i think i should give her a name... what should i be calling her... mmmmmmmmmmm........ thinking.. thinking.. thinking.....


tOdAy iS d' DaY

Yesterday evening was a good day... My new car has finally arrived in the Showroom and would be ready for Delivery today after the Teflon and the Anti Rust coating... which made the hole burnt in my pocket a li'il larger... but i guess this is really needed...Ok which car are we talking about here... its a PALIO Nv 1.2 Sports, Ferrari Red in colour... Comes fully loaded and i am moving the stereo from my old car the gud ol' maruti 800 to this one till i have some money to buy a new deck... I can't beleive that i am completly broke.. but i am a happy man at the end of the day.. i finally am buying my new car.. Have worked really hard for this day to come.. had issues with friends when i was working and did not give them enough time, and they thought that i did not want their company and all that... but failed to understand that they do have really high priority in my life but if i do no slog now then WHEN?A few of them understand and appreciate this fact and are still around... some of them changed completely and i doubt we are even close to being called friends.. i don't know.. its hard to keep everyone around you happy.. there has to be a choice made sometime or the other.. and these choices are usually very tough and are not intentional either...

Anyway... I am happy that i would be the proud owner of a Brand New Red Palio today evening... I fell in love which it the moment i saw it and i will own it now... Wish me luck...
God bless us all !!!


To mArRy or nOt 2 MaRrY

Ok.... Pros and Cons of getting married !!!
~ You have someone to come back to everyday.. unless he/she is in a travelling job...
~ You have someone who would stand by you come whatever may...
~ You get to live with someone who would share every thought (may be) that crosses your mind.. and compliments you in everything that you do...~ You have the security of not being alone...
All these things happen in a ideal marriage.. do all of them are like this... Dunno... and in India.. you gotta get married coz you gotta get married.. its the culture and the society and wants to see you get married more then you yourself.. Esther, its different in India... Live in Relationships, are just not accepted here !!!
Things which I don't think are letting me think positively about marriage...
~ There are times when you gotta slog and give your work more time then anything else.. would your partner understand this?
~ You might find yourself very uncomfortable answering the questions that now come to you from your partner.. Would you really want to be answering questions about any thing and everything.. anytime and everytime..

(an Orkut response) As far as Farah says.. that you get to spend a lotta money, eat pizzas and drive in your perky green Santro..i do not think that is why i should be getting married.. i can spend being a bachelor.. i like to eat pizzas still and have the Pizza Hut's pizzas more often then not, and about driving around.. i can drive around the town or outside.. in my car when ever i want.. i mean.. on a serious note.. what is marriage got to do with all this?

I think marriages are about those emotional bonds that you make for the rest of your lives.. but how?


Thinking before Saying it

Most of the times I hurt ppl by saying things too bluntly on thier faces.. Bad.. dunno... AM I sorry.. dunno either.. i am one of the ppl who do not know how to sugar coat words.. also that i do not like to hide my feelings inside me..
But that for sure is not the best thing to do at times.. and i do not want ppl to feel bad about things which i did not say to hurt the person... i just hope ppl would understand....


Palio 1.2 Test Driven

Okie doks.. I am back again after a great weekend... As planned did not do anything this weekend.. except checking out some cars and watching a movie.. Ek se Badkar Ek.. what a rotten movie.. i mean i could never expect anything of this sort from someone who has made "Jaane Bhi do Yaaron".. how could he do this to himself and to the poor people of India...

Anyway.. the other important things... I test drove two cars this weekend.. One a 1900 cc Palio D and the other one a 1.2 Palio ELX Wat awesome cars man !!! the Palio D was driven first.. it felt really sluggish for a petrol driver like me.. but i forgot that i gotta rev it up to 4000 rpm before i get any kinda fun out of the engine.. but still the car was good... they call it "Inspired from Aircraft Technology" reasons being the accelerator of a Palio Diesel is not connected thru any wires but is about wireless transmissions of data from the Accelerator Pedal to the engine trigerring off the rest of the game !!! pretty plastic feel inside the car in terms of interiors.. wood finish yes but did not look appealing at all.. atleast to me.. the upholstery is not the finest quality either.. so i had to let that car go out of the options that i had !!!

Next what i did to myself was a great favour and it happened by mistake only.. i was looking for the TATA showroom in noida and instead of taking a right turn took a left from one of the Red Lights... and there was a FIAT showroom "Dynamic Automobiles" right there in front of me !!! Went inside and there was a ferrari Red coloured Palio 1.2 Sports parked there.. what a car in terms of looks.. just awesome.. class apart from the Wagon Rs and the Santros... 14" alloys, red color, chrome plated interiors, white background dials, leather gear knob and steering wheeel.. everything about that car was awesome as i can put it... did not even feel like taking a test drive in any other car after that.. no ikons (though would have burnt a similar hole in my pocket) or the Wagon R VXi or something.. So got Dad to have a look at the car and it was approved for purchase.. i can only say that i fell in love with that car the moment i saw it...

Hoping to post some fotos of the Gaddi when i grab it in the near future !!!!


Spending the Weekend

So, i guess blogging is taking its toll on me as well.. like millions of others who are in the habit of writing everything...
Today I am going to type something about what do i do on a weekend usually, rather what am i planning to do this weekend.. and the lucky winner activity is "Going on test drives in a few cars".
I guess buying a car is not at all difficult, what is difficult is choosing which one to buy.. there is so much to choose from.. and there is a constant conflict between what you want to buy, and what should you buy... lemme explain...

Personally i would like to buy a Scorpio... but the issue here is that dad does not like it.. and its not too convinient in terms of maintainence as well... i am actually tired of driving the old Maruti 800... over 6 years that i am driving that car.. six is it.. lemme recall.. i remember driving this to my college and i started college in 1996.. i guess its about 7 years that i am driving 1990 make Maruti 800... and i really need to graduate to something which is a li'il higher on the road.. the least expensive seems to be a scorpio and it does not look like a cab either...

Ok.. the next choice then comes to the C-class Sedans like Honda City, Ford Ikon, Baleno, Accent, Corsa, Esteem and all.. not necessarily in that order... My views about all of them follow:

City : By far the best choice for a C-class sedan, thanks to its awesome performance, and the new reduced prices... the older model City still costs about 4 Lacs in the used car market.. great mileage of about 15-17 kmpl is a plus for this car.. and being a japanese car.. the maintainence costs are low too... one of the concerns being that the accesseries and parts are very expensive.. one bang or a brush.. and you be prepared to shell out the kinda money that you had not imagines.. these glass parts and the bumpers and all, which are most vulnerable to damage have a 50% depreciation immidiatly and that is why repairs are expensive.. you gotta spend some money for sure... Ok anyway.. lets move on...

Ford IKON : Great looks, awesome car.. but the mileage part of it... not too attractive.. the best buy in IKONs is the 1.8D EXI recently launched with the reduced prices.. makes it a very close competitor of the new City... i mean one litre of diesel can be expected to last for anything between 16-18 kms in the city and definitely over 20 on the highways... and its a great feeling to drive this car.. the petrol versions.. not sure about them.. i feel that the 1300 cc engine would not do justice to the car at all.. but it still gives an ok performance.. about 10-12 kmpl.... the repairs again come up as a expensive deal... but still an intelligent choice is the 1.8D which costs about 6 lacs ex. showroom.

Come to the likes of Corsa.. the tank on the road.. German technology.. and at its best.. the car with that feel good factor.. but a very average mileage... heavy car you see... but very comfortable... and add the great looks.. overall a great package.. but we middle class families would not prefer a car which gallops with gallons of gas !!!

Baleno : I find this a pretty decent buy especially after the revised prices.. ok mileage... good comfort level.. and the tag of a maruti suzuki.. still remains and rules the market as the most reliable service network...

Accent : Don't even want to talk about it.. Korean car manufacturers are cheaters.. i will not be talking about a Santro as well.. that has been ruled out because of the origin of its manufacturer.. run like a dream for a couple of years and once it starts troubling.. then its nightmares...

Esteem: Liked the older one better... changing the looks by making it look like a old Honda city.. does that really help..Higher and a bigger front grill.. stupid look tail lights... one thing that i loved about the other esteem is the tail lights.. they had a great road presence... but the new one.. huh... haaahh... not taken... but it still would remain the entry level car for the middle class... poor man's luxury car as one of my friends calls it...

Hey i forgot to mention the Fiat Petra.. i still need to learn more about that car.. it is a good looking car.. looks very compact but looses out points when it comes to fuel averages... will find out more and write about it...

Ok, now to the every one's cars... The Wagon Rs, Indica, Palio, Matiz (expect it as Chevy Spark early next year i.e. 2005)

Wagon R : great deal with Petrol cars.. good mileage.. good comfort.. good value for money... good space... bad tyres rather small and thin tyres... dates looks.. can be improved yes !!!! would i still buy it !!! yes... i dunno why maruti has to screw up the tail lights in the name of a face lift.. they did it with Wagon R then with the Zen and then with the Esteem... But i would rate Wagon as the best value for money considering the total cost of ownership of this car..

Indica : Good value for money especially after the new facelift they have done.. i wonder when would they have the turbo charged engine in the indica as well.. Like the Indigo.. the Indica with a elongated butt.. You just cannot find the difference between the two cars, if you are not able to notice the boot...anyway.. with an average of 15-17 kmpl in city and over 18 on the highway... its a good buy.. and the AC is great.. the only thing that i do not like.. rather a couple of things that i did not like are that the wheels are still those 13 inch wheels.. with that cosmetic upgrade around the wheels, it would have looked better with 14 inch wheels and a li'il wider ones would have added to the beauty more... anyway.. i can go ahead and make those changes if ibuy this one...

ZEN : Too small for us.. my Dad and me both of us are almost 6 foot tall.. and there is no way anyone can fit comfortably on the rear seat with us sitting in the front... very low ground clearence as well... which makes it kiss all those delhi speed breakers if we are driving with 4 ppl onboard...

Palio : Good but lacks on mileage and after sales... the latter being a mjor factor.. i would like to spend some time with the PalioD and see how it is like...

Here i come to the end of my observations about the cars i mentioned above.. i would like to have first hand information about any of these cars and any help in making me decide on a car would be greatly appreciated... I am spending this weekend test driving some of these and see where i get the feel good factor...


Third entry

Ok so here I am.. back with something from what happened during the day today... i am actually talking to a lot of ppl these days and because of my habit of judging everyone, i am thinking more these days... actually i am liking it.. its great... i talk to a lot of ppl, i learn from them, i find out what they do and how they do things in the office, i take back inputs formalise it and then put it in a document so that i can finish with a process by this month end.. its great...

anyone from the cyber world who has worked with processes would be welcome to talk more and contribute to my knowledge and share experiences...


Latest in the Four Wheeler Market in India

An attempt to discuss what is the latest happening and what's in and what's out of the wish list....


I would like to trigger a discussion on how life treats us and how it should be treated.. when do we take risks in terms of education, jobs, and when is the right time for trying to settle down...
when do you think money would drive discussions about changing jobs and when we start looking for a job if we are now looking for a profile change.. maybe more responsibilities.. and so on....