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15/10/04

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hmm... writing today after a few days.. the days have been kinda hectic and did not feel like writing either.. here i am today.. came to the office at 1330 hrs after attending and shop warming ceremony... (is that the right word) One of very dear friends Virat has opened a showroom for StyleSpa in Faridabad and today was the grand opening.. so me Virat and Ankur got back together for the occasion... yes there were about 100 more ppl but we have a different bond between us.. done three shows together in DAV.. spent loads of time together in college and moved on our different career paths.. i did my masters in software systems... Ankur went on to complete his LLB from CLC, Virat continued to work on his CA... and we still managed to keep in touch.. though me and ankur spent more time together because we stay in NOIDA...
Virat could not meet us on all of the occasions... he stays in Faridabad that's why... anyway.. today we sat down together again talking about the old times... but for a short time period.. we are planning to meet again on sunday to catch up with old times..

I got the seat covers for my car yesterday... light fawn colour.. giving the car a very elegent look now.. i want to give the best to this car.. no hassles about the money but she should look good.. and feel great..
About the reactions and responses that i got from my friends after the previous blog.. most of them are of the opinion that Friendship is not about sciences.. its all about heart.. its about how you feel and how you make the other person feel... I Agree and I Disagree....

You can say that being friends is all about hearts.. taking care of each other.. being proactive... making sure you are the support whenever your friend needs it.. and all that.. but then I disagree coz all this cannot be done without a proper thought going into the entire relationship... i cannot take anything and everthing that comes my way just the way it is... i have to make things happen.. and that requires me to think.. make an effort so that me and my friends share the best of the relationship... yes emotions are there.. but if they are not controllable there is no point.. i can easily be labelled as insane if i do not have control over my emotions and feelings..
Another question that is coming to my mind now !!! Where do i stop.. how to draw that line being madness and sanity !!!

Where does the difference come from..


May be continued......

1 comment:

  1. ..well, I feel friendship is all about your intentions (as to why you get into it at all) and your expectations ....both being directly proportional to each other. The more marked the intentions for getting into a relationship ..the more stark (obvious / stated / explicit) are the expectations. There are times when we don't even realise when we became good friends ...i.e. we naturally get along well ..we understant without being told and we get without asking, everything is so obviously perfect. Looking inside, I've always found such relationships ..when the two people involved had no intentions per se, to seek any gratification through the relationship, which is the purest form.

    The moment we begin something with an intent ...it obviously ends up leaving us evaluating ..what did we get out of it?

    I do agree that it is human to have expectations ...and being 'cardinal earthlings' we all harbour that expectation somewhere inside us ...but if it starts getting explicit in the begining of the relationship ..at least I would know that it is something that was not to be ..and feel happy that I could discover it fast ...relook as what mistake I made in understanding the other person ....

    Relationships I believe have their own life cycle the childhood (the the phase of discovery being the most beautiful one), which bonds, generates respect, love and understanding of each other, and then it either matures to a straight line for life (something true only of frienships, and directly proportional to the maturity level of the individuals involved) or starts degenerating, this is the point when the expectations are explicit, demands are stated and gains and losses evaluated ......

    I think I can write a book ...but gotta go for now ...will catch up later with more thoughts ...

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