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27/09/04

A fRiEnD iN NeEd !!!

Continuing the thought on friends.. and how do they contribute to your being a better human being.. a few friends like Bhoomi, are the ones who would not need anything to give their best to you... they would always be there on matter how bad you have been to them... even if you want to talk to them after weeks they would still sound happy.. rather then complaining about where you were the entire time... there is always a lot of energy and enthu in them and that is something that gives you all the relief that you have been waiting for... How can i forget that she is my first love.. and because of the situations we just could not be together.. our relationship was not to be materialise as a marriage though both of us wanted it bad... After months of pain , and trauma... we realised each others need, and have matured to a relationship which is true friendship... she lives a life of her own.. which involves her new crushes.. the guys she likes.. the kinda guy she would like to get married to .. and we share those thoughts.. what a relationship... and at the same point of time.. i am most comfortable talking to her... I have more respect for her then most of the ppl i know for all what she has faced and has come out as a winner... A lot of ppl ask me, if you guys are so good together.. why don't you get married and all those things.. its a long story and the crux is that we are not supposed to be even friends, but i guess we value and respect each others presence in our lives so much that we need each other as the person who would listen.. who will be around.. afcourse life would go on the way it shoud.. but i would not loose a friend that i got in her... anyway...

Another type of friends.. Narang.. oops... Gaurav Narang... a friend and a competitor at the same time.. we started together in Hughes and worked very hard together to be Team Leads and then I moved out to IT software support and now to Process Consulting... and he at the same time he continued his efforts is today a Ops Astt. Manager with Hughes.. he deserves it anyday.. he is one person who has influenced me a lot and we have taken each others growth as our goals.. one grows then the other guy will not be jealous rather he would be happy for the other and work harder to be better then the other... We have moved ahead on parallel paths and what a race it has been....

A few more, who cannot be left out and have been around... one way or the other.. Gaurav Marwaha (My idol for dedication and hardwork), Meghana Jain ( a great designer.. awesome writer.. and a good thinker).. Waquar ( very calm composed no nonsense human being.. ), Sandeep Verma ( friends since class III.. great company to be with...), and there have been lots and lots of ppl who have contrinuted to my growth and success...

Other then all of these ppl there have been some who have left but only after giving me a lot of pain and agony.. friends who behave as if you are one of the most important person in their lives, and then back stab you.. again and again.. till the time you do not find it, you continue thinking that they really are friends.. but the moment you start know about things which you should not.. you loose faith and trust in them as well as friendship... Another Category... ppl who would not understand and be proactive about what you would need out of the friendship that you share.. and after one point when you have lost all hope and are moving out.. you are blamed that you do not understand, you do not treat ppl good.. and what not.. Some friends have a dream world of their own... they meet you.. get along well... then make a small world out of the thoughts that they have for you.. and then it crashes... coz the other person was never thinking that way... THE END of a sweet something that was moving towards a good friendship... they make their own worlds.. their expectations do not get fulfilled because of the other person not thinking that way.. and then they change... This is my side of looking at the entire set of episodes... There is another side to it.. the side which the ppl concerned with these would be able to tell more and then lemme know that I was insensitive their needs, i hurt them a lot, i was not listening to what they had to say.. and lots of things more which go well in way to say that i have been a bad friend..

dunno what i have written.. but i feeling a li'il better after writing.. i do not say i have been doing the right things all the time... but the truth is that i have lost a lot of faith and trust in being friends because of whatever has happened.. leaving li'il room for emotions in my life anymore !!!!

1 comment:

  1. Hey Pgs ...!! sorry if you do not like the way I address you ...can't be helped ...your name's too long ..a serious effort to make it sound short n sweet ...he he he ..besides it helps me feel you more like you, though you don't 'oink'anymore ..!!

    Well on a more serious note ..why is it that we have to feel lonely and then feel victimised by so called erstwhile friends ..? why do we want them to come back to us ..? why can't we reach out to them ..?? why can't we grow over them and seek newer and more positive ppl..? especially when we know for sure (thru exp) that they do exist ....if they did not how would we ever know that the others were bad or maybe not so good ...

    Gotta go now ....lots of thought ..maybe will try and finish this tomorrow ...take care ...

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