I am wondering how easy is it for someone to
Set an expectation
Forget all about it at his/her own convenience
Get Angry when someone reminds him/her of it
Making sure that the other person feels like (s)he has done a mistake by speaking his/her mind
Coming back and almost laughing at him/her, while justifying what was done with proper and valid artifacts
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I don't call a lot of people friends... I don't like to... because I know I cannot do justice to that term... its an underrated word, for all I know... So I have a few friends, and a lot of people I know, and some are somewhere between the I know and are friends area...
When I call someone a friend, it basically adds a whole lot of responsibility on me to ensure that I intentionally or otherwise don't do things which would hurt them...
Not that I can always prevent myself from doing such things, but I, from my past, know that I would be genuinely sorry for hurting anyone of the people I call friends...
And I do make it a point to make it up to them either by saying sorry and meaning it, or by doing something that would help me make it up to them...
I would not like to first hurt a friend, and then at the next opportunity go back and justify what i did... If I ever did that, I shouldn't have done that... I know it feels bad when first you are hurt and then made fun of...
I am sorry...
Set an expectation
Forget all about it at his/her own convenience
Get Angry when someone reminds him/her of it
Making sure that the other person feels like (s)he has done a mistake by speaking his/her mind
Coming back and almost laughing at him/her, while justifying what was done with proper and valid artifacts
______________________
I don't call a lot of people friends... I don't like to... because I know I cannot do justice to that term... its an underrated word, for all I know... So I have a few friends, and a lot of people I know, and some are somewhere between the I know and are friends area...
When I call someone a friend, it basically adds a whole lot of responsibility on me to ensure that I intentionally or otherwise don't do things which would hurt them...
Not that I can always prevent myself from doing such things, but I, from my past, know that I would be genuinely sorry for hurting anyone of the people I call friends...
And I do make it a point to make it up to them either by saying sorry and meaning it, or by doing something that would help me make it up to them...
I would not like to first hurt a friend, and then at the next opportunity go back and justify what i did... If I ever did that, I shouldn't have done that... I know it feels bad when first you are hurt and then made fun of...
I am sorry...
:)
ReplyDelete# Reeta :)
ReplyDeleterelax re...
ReplyDeleteif u know when u hurt ur frnds, (knowingly or unknowingly), they too know when u make up for them and that u mean it
such is the beauty of friendship!
:)
@ Mayuri...
ReplyDeleteFor a change, the trigger for this post was me getting hurt :)
anyway... old story...
Infact, I do expect a few of my friends to be mean to me... somehow thats how it is...
arrey, i m sorry yaar
ReplyDeletejust take care.. ye story bhi old ho jayegi naa...
hugs...
Yo neva mind :)
ReplyDeleteall is well and good...
Nice post - and how very true! Has happened with me too a lot of times. I read your comments...on this...who hurt you? How dare someone? :D
ReplyDelete# That was it...
ReplyDelete:) ab to baat purani ho gai :)
hmmm...now I know why you said that we are too loose in using the term friend and that koi value nahin reh gayi hai iss word ki...hmmm.
ReplyDeleteI know yeh post purani hai aur baat ussay bhi purani hai.
This has happened with me so many times that have I've lost count...(smirk) Most of the times i've have followed the 'raat gayi, baat gayi' rule but sometimes it is not possible to forget...may be forgive but not forget, even after years.
Honestly, I don't prefer to use the word 'friend' so loosely and casually.I've been looking for a 'word' that can be used for people who are (in your words)'somewhere between the I know and are friends area'. I know they are not my friends and I don't want to address them as my friends. Acquaintance? Does that sound rude? What do I call them? Any suggestions? :)