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08/12/07

the interface to emotions

No software is complete without a decent interface... I know of so many applications that failed miserably because the users did not see the interface that would have helped them get the feeling of what the application was capable of... 

As people, as consumers the interface is very important for all of us... 

I remember in one of the workshops I had attended a few years back, we talked about how every interaction that we have with any one is like a transaction... where someone is the customer and the other one is a provider... and that did make sense to me then and it does make sense to me today as well... 

Ok, coming back to the initial point... the interface.. so in every transaction I feel that an interface plays and important role... 

So does how and what we express... our emotions, our mind, our heart is the application running at the background and our expression of those emotions and thoughts is the interface... 

having emotions, having feelings, having thoughts is a complete waste if we don't express... 

a lot of times our eyes speak... 
a lot of times our actions speak...
and at times we do...

and if nothing of the above happens, I think we only increase distances... which at times become so large that it becomes impossible to bridge them.. no matter how hard we try !!!

12 comments:

  1. every interface has its limitations...you need to be close enough to get the best out of it. Emotions dont function like VPN :)

    god bless and have a beautiful weekend

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  2. I don't agree with you Sharanya... they do... emotions are stronger than most of us think they are...

    if one really wants to express... distances just don't matter...

    you are right that to get the best out of it one needs to be close enough...

    but if someone gives you the thought of a fireplace when you are cold, it brings comfort if not the fireplace...

    this is a never ending debate to be honest...

    some of us like to keep waiting to be "close enough" to express... and some express what they can in whatever way they can...

    just a matter of choice and how important we feel our expression of the matter is...

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  3. there are two types of cockroaches (Bachhaan style) when it comes to emotions :

    1. Most common types. They are just scared of expressing. And it leaves the traits of Shyness, Pseudo intellect, Sarcasm, Indirect communication..etc..

    One's given the courage and confidence the learn to express themselves

    2. The nutty variety OR difficult to CRACK are the "Emotionally Challenged (or vice verse Intellectually Challenged)" people!!

    They are the real hopeless and sad souls on earth I think.. who can't express themselves. They are the mutants, who have under developed and combo brain deal of a reptile(or insect) and Mammal.

    The mammal part makes them receptive of emotions, but the reptilian brain, does not let any post processing of received signals!!

    They just do not know the art of expressing..and now matter what you do..unlike the 1st cockroach, these varieties never change!!

    I have my sympathy for them :) Poor souls...stay away from such Mutants. For them its a matter of choice..to remain as Mutants, and reap the benefits of having the partial mammalian brain...

    Now there is third variety, I call them super humans :), who can express themselves not only through words, eyes, smile..but by voice, music, creativity..

    Yani ki 'HUMM'jaise logh :D, :))

    Hai kuch in life better than, being able to express oneself?

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  4. if one really wants to express, distances just don't matter...

    had a cold discussion on the same topic with someone yesterday...i know some ppl find it difficult to express themselves, but even the slightest effort on their part would definitely make the other person feel special...wish they understood...

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  5. hmmm...quite thought provoking, I believe one should always express what one has in his mind. Considering the fact that I am a big bollywood fan, would like to quote a dialogue from Lamhe, when Anupam Kher says" dil mein jo baat hai use saamne wale ko bata dena chahiye, zaada se zaada kya hoga, saamne wala mana kar dega, kam se kam hamein to satisfaction rahega ki hamne apni dil ki baat use bata di."

    Be it love, friendship, admiration even hatred or disgust, I believe in expressing it on the face of the other person. Actions at times speak louder than words at times, so you just have to act what the circumstances warrant.

    Interface is very very importance, and yes, emotional distances are the hindrances not the geographical ones.

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  6. lol when do you ever agree with me Om..:))

    If someone gives you a thought of a fireplace when u are cold...for a day or two it feels great...but everytime u feel cold thats not enough...Only the feet knows where the shoe pinches...

    wah!! i actually like the last line..:))

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  7. @ Tanu…
    I can see the phd :D hehehe…. I think expressing is very important too… no point of a feeling without an expression… its like a recipe which was never cooked…

    @ Bhumika..
    right… the amount of expression is something that does not really matter… everyone have their own way… but some people just cannot… intentionally or otherwise… God only knows…

    @ Anjuli…
    yea… emotional distances are the show stoppers…

    @ Sharanya…
    What a coincidence!! I was about to ask you the same thing: D hehehe…

    Your practical approach to life and how to live it is great. and I appreciate that too.. but its too disconnecting and extreme…

    How do you know that some expression is good for just one or two days? And whats the harm in expressing over and over again, using what you can till the situation improves?

    I wonder if you think first aid should be given to someone, with some hope, till (s)he can be given the complete attention it needs...

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  8. "a lot of times our eyes speak... a lot of times our actions speak...and at times we do...
    and if nothing of the above happens, I think we only increase distances..."

    i like this subtle element of ur post.
    :)

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  9. Interface.... Interaction... communication: Everyone knows the theory. It is the practicals, where we falter.

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  10. Nice post.... i agree with B.o'hemian..... its easier said than done.... you just cant express each and everythign to anyone and everyone.... there has to be soem comfort factor to it and then i agree distance doesnt matter.... but i feel for expressing soemthing the relationship platform and the communciation level makes a lot of difference.... ofcourse the past track record can be a hinderance too... but we cant judge ppl who cant express themselves easily... as some kinda of loosers... afterall everybody has inhibitions and most of us dont have the gift of gab....

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  11. # Mayuri...
    thanks..

    # Subbu...
    sahi bola bhai tu sahi bola..

    # Aqui...
    long time eh !!! kahan hai tu?

    and you are not supposed to express each and everything to anyone and everyone either... even the most expressive ones don't do that re...

    take me for an example... i talk a lot and feel am expressive enough, but still a lot of people know me as a very silent person...

    if one knows that (s)he is not able to express, and feels thats its important to.. then I think not making an effort to correct things is what is needed... no judgements there... but then i don't think anyone can be completely non-expressive...

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  12. I love this post, Omzi.

    I can't agree with you more on the following line:
    "a lot of times our eyes speak...
    a lot of times our actions speak...
    and at times we do..."

    hmm..and interesting comments :)
    This is so true that some of us keep waiting to be close enough to express while some express what they can in whatever way they can. Very, very true :)

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