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24/10/06

EaSy?

What do you think?

Is knowing someone who is quiet, difficult?

or

Is knowing someone who speaks a lot more difficult?


Most of us might feel that someone who speaks a lot is kinda easy to understand... but I personally feel that the talkative, outspoken, always happy kinds usually have things that they are hiding (intentionally or otherwise) from the world... there is a lot more to them then the words coming out of their mouths... and because they have this perfect envelope of their spoken words around themselves, it relatively harder to know them as a person...

28 comments:

  1. Yup. you are right. in my experience people who talk a lot usually dont talk about themselves much...unless you read between the lines. When i was younger I always got attracted to the silent types :P and loved to worm things out of them!

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  2. @ soo...

    even i am usually attracted towards the less talking girls, coz i feel its interesting to make them speak out...

    also, I have seen that the less talking ones are usually that way except for a certain group of people which is fairly small... and this is where they talk talk talk talk talk...

    around the more talking ones, i usually would like to be silent in front of them.. and observe...

    # kishley...
    aage bhi kuch bolo...

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  3. As a silent type (except for a very small group), I am often misunderstood. I am sure this experience is not mine alone.

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  4. # subbu,
    about getting misunderstood... its not because u are silent or a talkative kinds...

    i am talkative except for a few people who are new to me... i am misunderstood as well...

    i think if someone is really keen on knowing the silent types, then it needs a lot of patience...

    and if someone needs to know the talkative kinds.. it needs a lot of err.. patience... and some amout of smartness...

    but then does that mean that for the silent types you do not need to be smart... i am not sure.. but i guess being patient would come over the rest of the things...

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  5. u have to be smart to know any kind of person.............same goes for patience too.......

    smart enough to encourage the silent type to talk abt themselves and smart enough to filter the unwanted information coming frm talkative types.......

    knowing both of them is tough.......u talked of extremes.......but one thing that i have observed over the yrs is if the silent type really starts trusting u then u can know them very well in short period of time as compared to talkative types ( a general statement)

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  6. its equally difficult to understand either of the categories since, it all depends how best the person can hide what he intends to and present what the others want ..though with a touch of his own true being and his feelings.

    he may not just react there and then, but may just be planting a seed and wait for an offshoot.

    Above is one of the many fundas from a human brain to the intiated topic of discussion.

    But it all finally comes to the human brain.. how to outsmart the smartest has always been playing a a key role in the survival of the fittest!

    i will take a neutral stand on the topic.

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  7. its equally difficult to understand either of the categories since, it all depends how best the person can hide what he intends to and present what the others want ..though with a touch of his own true being and his feelings.

    he may not just react there and then, but may just be planting a seed and wait for an offshoot.

    Above is one of the many fundas from a human brain to the intiated topic of discussion.

    But it all finally comes to the human brain.. how to outsmart the smartest has always been playing a a key role in the survival of the fittest!

    i will take a neutral stand on the topic.

    ..Sid..

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  8. # deepu...
    true...

    but to get the silent ones to talk with you does not really need smartness but comfort... and comfort comes from being genuine...

    the silent ones usually work with faith and trust, and you should not manipulate them ever... not that i completely agree to what you said, i am not disagreeing either...

    knowing anyone for that matter is tough bro...

    good to read your thoughts here... waise what are you? the silent or the talkative?

    i have seen both these aspects fortunately :)

    # sid...
    hmm... valid points...

    to understand a person takes brain, heart and a lot of other things... how you treat someone, how you show your interest in the person and their life are two more...

    i have seen the big time chatterboxes being very silent and serious with close friends... and the serious kinds, talkative...

    i guess everyone comes with these two features, its more or less in an individual to an individual...

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  9. I kinda agree with you...musch more difficult to find more about a talkative person...because you tend to believe there is not too much beyond the words...

    By the way great observation...and a great post!

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  10. arey u misunderstood, why u have to equate smartness with manipulation......see wat i mean frm smartness there was u need to know and understand that person to some extent to open that up.....if am really interested in knowing someone i wud try to see what makes that person comfortable (that makes me smart enough to understand that person comfort level)

    guess now it wud be clear :)

    me...well as u said u have seen both sides of me.....i knw surely that i dont lie in between these two extremes.....i just depends on situation and the person with me :)

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  11. # bhaskar...
    thanks bro...

    # deepak...
    nai re... i did not misunderstand you... i just wanted to add to what you wrote...

    you keep moving from one end to the other basis the situation.. i do too :D the only difference is that you are the quiter one most of the time.. hehehehe...

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  12. I will just answer the question without getting into any discussion or debate about the issue. And of course this is just my perspective here.

    I think someone who speaks a lot is more difficult to understand that one who speaks little. Because the talkative ones are talkative either because they have to create/protect the image of themselves that they want the rest of the world to have. Underneath that exterior there might be a wholly different person. A silent/ less talkative person is easier to fathom (comparatively) simply because the expectations from that person to perform or live up to an image are also less.

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  13. Umm Prashie.. an Extrovert or an Introvert, both have their good n bad. For e.g. a Talkitive person will be able to express using words and will find it easier to get the message across and then when in a bad mood you will get the brunt
    In the case of an Introvert it iwll be the emotions and expressions which will be the give away but in the case of a conflict...God bacahaye aapko...cause you wont know what is wrong at all!

    So its a matter of people management here, both of them are a challenge in a way. I personally like the Introverts.

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  14. arre i was abt to write a para on this topic wen my mom called and i mistakenly hit enter.. :) vaise mine is the shortest comment on this page :D

    i believe it is equally difficult or easy to know both kind of people.. People who talk much or people who dont say anything, both share only a part of themselves to someone whom they sparingly know.. How much u get to know them depends upon a lot of other things.. like the time for which u have known them, time u ve spent with them, how comfortable they are in ur company and so on... It depends a little upon how much they say :) gestures and reactions always speak louder than words..

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  15. # sayan...
    yes this is being read as your perspective only :) and is respected as well...

    true...

    # akash...
    extrovert and introvert have a different meaning altogether... i am only talking about amount of words coming out of someone's mouth...

    i can speak a lot, and do you think that you know a lot of about me? well... think again :)

    people management, I would agree...

    # kishley...

    nicely written....

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  16. I agree with woodsmoke.... talktive ppl mostly blabber a lot cause they wanna fake their impression or hide something inside most of the time..... remember 'tum itna jo muskura rahe ho kya gham hai jisko chupa rahe ho'.....

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  17. btw the most talkitive ones can be the most silent types in their actual lives and vice versa....

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  18. i like the intelligent more talking ones and silent dumb types

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  19. # aqui...
    i have seen that happen from a very close distance...

    true about the role change...

    # burf...
    well said...

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  20. I've no clue. I hardly notice all this. Plus, I guess any individual's behaviour changes with the kind of people he is hanging out with. That's why, I notice myself hyperactive with some and extremely quiet with some. :|

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  21. # rohit...
    its ok if you are not observing... some day you might and you will..

    about the individual... there are two things
    1) Character...
    2) Behaviour...

    while the behaviour of anyone changes and should basis the person in question, the character remains the same... what i wanted to talk about in this post was point 1...

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  22. I agree...or do i???

    I mean one of my best buddies is the talkative kinds....not the ones who would eat your head but rather the kinds who would simply be happy. Be it 5 in the morning or 12 in the afternoon. God knows...I am good with understanding people...He is one man I am not ashamed to admit...I just can't get him!

    Oh and yes...Happy Winters

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  23. # kanu...

    :)

    happy winters to you too...

    one of your other friends is a talkative person too...

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  24. mere baare mein kya khyaal hai thakur?

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  25. hmmm, sahi hai. you have been observing people a lot lately. but, kintu, parantu...hey praani...is duniya mein ye jo do category ke log tumney bataye hain...they are equally difficult as well as easy to understand. The quiet ones and the outspoken ones have their own envelopes which help them to hide things...in short both hide but in their own different way. So what, everyone has the right to hide yaar...you do not share anything and everything with everyone. And as far as understanding goes...one does not let himself or herself understand anyone unless there is some amount of comfort level between the two....[:)]

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  26. i think, understanding a silent or a talkative person is equally difficult. depite their different dispositions (of being an introvert or an extrovert), both of them share one thing in common: neither of them talks about him/her self. the silent one chooses not to speak at all; and the talkative one keeps talking about anything but himself.

    knowing someone becomes easier once u get to know the person a little better. s/he may still be the same person; the silent or the talkative one; but the point is that u know more of him/her because s/he has started relating to u that way.
    and i think, the change in roles from being silent to talkative and vice-versa happen only after one starts relating to someone, coming out of his/her shell and also feeling comfortable doing so.

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  27. It takes a lifetime to know someone yet you can never know for sure ‘cause people evolve.

    Read this somewhere … “No man means all he says and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous.”

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