i was thinking about writing about how exciting the last weekend was...
two days full of activity... and then a thought came to my mind.. which i think needs to go in first..
- Is your physical closeness with a person a scale of your emotional feelings?
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for me its not.... how close i can get physically would not help anyone measure how emotionally attached i am with the person i am physically close to...)
- Is it necessary that if you are physically close to someone you are emotionally attached to the person too?
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it might happen... and there are good chances that it does... however there is nothing that can guarantee this... you can be physically close just because you want to be... )
- Can you be totally not-physical with someone and still be very emotional?
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yes... totally....this is what happens when you are friends OR this is something that can happen when the case is of a TRUE LOVE; huh !!!)
- Can you be physical with someone and not be emotional at all? And if you are not emotional all this while.. does that make you a bad person?
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yes... most of the time in such cases i would be physically close to the person because I am very comfortable in the company of that person....; or the other case is... that i just want to be physically close to the person without anything else coming into picture... and about me being a bad person... till the time i am not lying to the person... i am good...)
Everyone who reads the above questions probably would have different answers to them...
Well...
very subjective question!
ReplyDeleteit need not necessarily be a scale of your feelings.
again,not necessary that u're emotionally attached if u're physically close.
yes, u can be totally not-physical and still be very emotional.
it doesn't make someone a bad person. depends on the way he/she is perceived by that other person.
i think it's just that if there's physicality in a relationship that otherwise also has a lot of emotions attached to it then it automatically results in more attachment.
it also varies from person to person. for someone who generally feels the need to be with someone it can get overwhelming at times but it need not be the case with everyone.
but if it is just a completely physical thing and just that then there isn't much scope for attachment.
this is what i think.
Well my ans and i wont get into details of y or y not...cuz every1 can have different opinion on it....
ReplyDelete1) Is your physical closeness with a person a scale of your emotional feelings? No
2)Is it necessary that if you are physically close to someone you are emotionally attached to the person too? No
3)Can you be totally not-physical with someone and still be very emotional? yes
4) Can you be physical with someone and not be emotional at all? And if you are not emotional all this while.. does that make you a bad person? yes and no
@ bastm, aqui & deeps...
ReplyDeletethanks for your views on this !!!
I don't think there are any straightjacketed 'yes' or 'no' or 'right' or 'wrong' answers to any of the questions you've asked. It's a question of personal choice...of the people involved.
ReplyDeleteAnd personal choice, as we all know, is formed by a multitude of factors...it could be your background, your age, your state of mind...basically it all depends on the person you are at that point of time (because again I think people and their perceptions towards life is ever-changing).
# woodie...
ReplyDeletetrue... very true...
hi prashant, kaha ho, dikhe nahi kabhi se mere blog pe. your questions are difficult to answer. every person's answer would be different. age, gender, backgrounds even cities would make a difference. I would say
ReplyDeleteIs your physical closeness with a person a scale of your emotional feelings? - nope. a crush on a movie star or a cricketeer can be very strong and his/ her success/ failure would be important but you are door door tak not physically close. but if you look at it the other way, generally in women, being physically intimate with a man requires an emotional connection. It may not be true for all women of course.
Is it necessary that if you are physically close to someone you are emotionally attached to the person too? - not necessary either but its easy to relate to someone who is constantly physically close. you may not appreciate it when they are present but their absence may cause a sense of loss.
Can you be totally not-physical with someone and still be very emotional? - yup. I have been away from my parents for the last 5-6 years but like hell I am emotional about them.
Can you be physical with someone and not be emotional at all? - its possible.
And if you are not emotional all this while.. does that make you a bad person? - I would say that if you are crossing a level of physical closeness, your non-emotional attachment should be absoultely clear to the other person beforehand and the decision to remain close or get closer should be of the other person.
of course all of this also depends a lot on circumstances and on the other person too but I think generally this is how it is with me.
@ priyangini...
ReplyDeletei like to read what you write.. and how you write it... thanks for coming by...
nice questionaire :)
ReplyDeletei think everyone have different view abt these Q..
i think for any relation ship u did honesty towards relationship.
u can be emotionally attached w/o being physically involved .
n this is also possible that u don feel anything for the person u r involved physicall..
but i think physical intimacy is also imp to some extent n they can be relationship booster but subject to the true emotions..
$ chitra...
ReplyDeleteyea.. different view.. thats what makes ppl interesting.. having different views...
honest yes.. you have to be honest.. physically or emotionally.. you have to be...
physical intimacy is important yes... and lack of it usually does not take relationships a long way !!! with a few exceptions...
and thanks for your thoughts...