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23/06/06

OnCe A DoG !!! aLwAYs a DoG !!!

I used to be a Dog in my last birth... why... because I still have some traits left…

I am all over the people I care for and I like… At times to the extent of irritation, and the people who are not on the “I like you” list, always can hear the growl in the background from me… so if I like you, you would know it… but if I do not.. Then you probably would only hear some growling... And Silence!!!

I wanted to write about conversations… but for some reason I am not able to write about them… maybe I will soon!!! I actually was taken aback with something that one of my friends said about conversations…

To be frank at that time I felt that I was not good enough for getting into a conversation with her because I did not know shit about what she wanted to talk about… but then I was willing to listen, which apparently was not good enough for a decent convo… a lot of thoughts came into mind then… was knowledge really important between two friends to talk… do we talk because of what we know or because of what we are… are the friends I have made because I knew something… can I learn about things and be a good conversationalist… or is it going to make me a good speaker only…

Well... Here are two questions that I throw today in air...

1) What animal do you think you are and why?
2) What does it take for two people to be able to talk to each other? ( and I am talking about two people who are either friends or on the way to be friends)


21 comments:

  1. i can foresee poeple bring analysed :D

    lol ;)

    kewl, i am watching the responses too :p

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  2. animal : god knows
    knowledge for friends to talk : yeah sometimes u do.....isnt same interests bring people together most of the times........

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  3. # burf...
    teri pehli line samajh nai aaya..

    # deeps...
    true... common interests bring people together... and interest does not mean knowledge.. i may not know anything about something.. and still be into a conversation with the other person...

    but what i was talking about is a time when you know or not knowing about a topic becomes a hurdle to your conversation... thats not too good is it?

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  4. er.. and i always thought u'r the SID :P
    anyways.. to answer ur queries:\

    1. i m a FISH :D
    by zodiac- hindi as well as english astrological charts.and that makes me a true piscean...apart from the compliments and comments i get from others for being the person i m.. i think i m as easy going and a dreamer and unpredictable and sometimes demure` as a marine marvel can be.and yes, i m so aquatic by nature.. can gulp gallons of water and so can play with waters endlessly.. enough of me now.. :)

    2. what does it take for twosome to talk to each other: very tricky question indeed...
    i think its all about being at ease and free with each other.a friendly talk , i believe, is quite different from a formal/business talk (where u need to precondition ur words/reflexes/gestures/moves etc etc and calculate the impact of the same) .. a friendly conversation is like something unconditional,free flowing and firsthand and mutual talks. its just about speaking my mind without choosing my words carefully (dont i use slangs when i m talking with a friend)because i know the other person will listen to me...and understand ..and whether the other will agree with me or not,is a different thing altogether.but surely s/he will freely give me his/her opinion as well.right?and so i will say it all..both of us compliment/ comment/ critcise each other and do accept it.( and if i m holding myself back and not feel comfortable talking to u, its not a good sign)

    and yes, i need not be well informed or seek something of common interest to talk about all the times...actually i can talk about anything..and need not do some wise talk all times as well..i can be actually talking foolish at times and enjoying it too..with that friend of mine :)
    a friend is like my mirror image.. seeing it all and reflecting back the real me.and so a friendly talk is like talking to oneself...

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  5. yeah its not good..........but gradually we do come to know wat we can talk to which friend........its not that two people will have always have same kind of information and knowledge .........
    if two unknown people come together and there is a big diff between their IQ/EQ's then ofcourse there are chances that they mite not stay longer together.........

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  6. chal fir kisi din chai pe samjhaunga :D

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  7. A) I hope that i m in "i like you" list of this dog....
    B)for sure i m a caged bird dying to free myself explore the endless sky... initially even i used to think i am f dog (cudnt have said bitch for myself) but then i have too many expectations of my master and i m not into unconditional love....
    C)i think (as per my exp) mental connection is a must for two ppl to be freinds in the long run....they shud be able to talk.... knowlege can be passed on if less or more....

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  9. Ahem, TIGER!!!!
    Hobbes ne dhokha de diya!!! *faints*

    Dog?! Kaise pata re? K**** wala dialogue marne ka man kar raha hai. Heck, it's TOO predictable :P


    Ahem..Animal? I think that's for the others to say. Don't you think? Only 'friends', 'not-so-good-friends' and 'not-friends' (ahem) can suggest. Together, we can come up with a new breed of an animal :D

    And.. One-sided conversations often help one learn something or the other. Plus, if both the people know the subject well, it's a better and deeper conversation. In the first case, it's not even conversation, I guess.

    And, being JUST a listener, to build a nice conversation, is one of the MOST important things.

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  10. hmm.. now thi sis interesting.. vaise i dun think i can say i am this animal.. i have traits of various of them.. :) but i think i resemble a TORTOISE most ... I am mostly busy in my own life and my own thoughts.. oblivious to the world outside.. mayb thats y i cant understand wat u meant by fake ppl..

    And abt conversations.. well i dun know.. i can start off a convo with ne1 who is interested :) and with whom i have something to share.. the most imp thing to have a good convo is to have a person who can also talk non-stop like me ;)

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  11. 1. Duck on water. Calm on the surface, but furiously paddling underneath.
    2. Connection.

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  12. not the first time when i am thinking about this and i think maybe i was a cow. this would not go with one of my recent posts where i said that i am happy being a bitch but let's just say that i am a bitch in this birth..was a cow the last time round.

    about your second question... i think it is just something as simple as common things. not necessarily interests at that. you might have something common to crib about with someone.
    BUT, more importantly, it is a liking for the other person that matters. if both the people like each other enough they can talk about anything. it doesn't require a specific topic to be discussed each time.
    and if the wavelength does not match then you look for reasons like knowledge/specific interests,etc to keep a convo going.

    for how long can you talk about that one common thing you have. it only works as a starter.

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  13. Dog, Cat, Horse! If there is a cross breed of these three, then I was that.

    Concersations are a dicey things no matter whoever you are having it with. Also depends on the sense of humour of the other person. I have never been able to keep a conversation going on for a very long time because i never know about any subject present in the universe at all. ;)

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  14. Nice...and well...rather amazing.

    I liked no change that....I loved it. But never stuck me as a dog. More like a moody irritated gruff camel...but never a silently growling dog.

    Bt hey...you asked for a question and i would try to be honest.

    A little..almost an year ago i would have said a bitch for i truly am at times. But a friend of mine had once said...Kanika you are a phoenix....everytime you burn, you collect your ashes and stand again to sore into the sky!

    Strange that being a water crazed cancerian, i am fascinated by a creature that is all fire...

    Sorry but i aint modest!

    Now about the conversation bit. Well...i once read somewhere, that you know you are friends with someone when you sit with the person for hours in silence and yet leave feeling you just had the best conversation!

    My point? Conversation is no rocket science. When we are talking about frnds, it all comes out. That is why we say that when love strikes you...you are always in the middle when you realize it happened to you. It is a smile, a laugh, a little look or a single sentence that says it all and starts a beautiful conversation.

    I have two very special frnds and i usually talk a lot with both. With one i never really remember what all we talked about and with other i at times remember word by word. Does it changes anything? With one i listen a lot and with other i am the one who keps chattering....

    with both i share a bond that makes me strong. And whenever i put down a phone i am smiling, for it does not matter what we talked about....what matters is that all was understood and strangely words have nothing to do with it.

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  15. # mayuri...

    SID I am ... ask some of my close friends and you will know...

    Fish... hmm...

    good thoughts about the conversations..

    # deepak...
    true..

    # burf... ok

    # aqui...
    A) you are :)
    B) hmm... i hope that you go out in the skies the way you want to...
    C) true...

    # Rohit...
    i can be hobbes too :)

    hmm... subject... deeper conversation... tell me the last time you were actually deep into talking about a subject and you called in a conversation....
    i have always called talks about a topic discussions.. and not conversations...

    Listening yes is important...totally agree to it..

    # kishley...
    hmm... nice thoughts...

    # sayesha...
    nice nice..

    # richa...
    hmm...

    liking for the other person.. true..

    # abhi...
    :) ok...

    hmm... welll i never thought i need to KNOW things to have conversations...

    # kanu...
    loved ur comment...
    :)

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  16. Animal- Checked my horoscope to find the Yoni as Cow. Thinking more well, i am like that to an extent. I dont trouble anybody but if troubled, then sure use my horns :-D and i can be milked for love :-D he he he

    Conversation is meant to be a 2 way thing and she talking and u not understanding anyything is NO communication, and probably that erked her. But instead of pointing fingers better was to find a common ground.

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  17. If u want to initiate conversation with someone then you dont have to pretend that you are listening,For a good conversation you have to be good to reciprocate the other person.If you think you are not good with conversation with her then there might be problem with her also.

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  18. # ankur...
    hmm... so you are cow :)
    about conversations... well... to start with I would not be suprised if one does not understand what the other person is saying... this is where "listening" comes into picture...

    and no one is pointing fingers here... just trying to find what does it take for conversation to happen..

    # anony...
    hmm... not sure if i was talking about a problem with the person... its just about what you want to talk about...

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  19. whats the benifit of listening silently when u r not understanding anything? its bound to erk somebody :p

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  20. # ankur...
    not sure why you are thinking i did not understand anything...

    i have written i did not know shit about the subject... and have not mentioned anything about how much of it did i understand !!!

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  21. Hey!!

    Don't know but managed to come to this blog somehow. Found it really interesting, especially the pics, by you and one of ur friends (Deepak...i Guess. the one with gems and then the one with drops on a glass....they are awsome)

    But to answer ur questions:

    Animal : Squrriel...coz i'm as restless as that cute little creature of God. Always upto something :)

    And any two people who share common interests in the very first place, start talking and slowly become friends.

    This is what I feel in short...rest some other time. Chao!!

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