Why are we guys like this !!!!
I have experienced this twice now... one of my good friends... well i call her a good friend coz she has been around to hear me out when i had anything to speak.... she was not feeling well for the last few days.. and i called her up yesterday... the talk went nicely.. and then she said... Prashant.. i need to talk to you... being the super intelligent i am .. i asked her if this was the last time we were talking... and then she said "KINDA".... i mean.. what does kinda mean... its either the last time.. or its not.. anyway...
why this happened... here is why... she has a boyfriend... and he probably is not comfortable with the two of us being friends... insecurity... trust... faith... whatever.... though he is nice enough not to say that in clear words to this friend of mine... however... in subtle words the message was shared.. and she took the right decision... for her its HE who should be more important and talking to me ... or being friends with me is something that is not that high on the list...
lost another friend... for no fault of mine... the last time it had happened was when i was in Hughes... a friend of mine called up one fine day... and toldme that Prashant Manish is not really comfortable with us talking... and she would never talk to me again.. and i let go !!!!
Guys... why are we like this... why can't we accept that our girlfriends can also have friends... why do we bloddy act like this... and i am not excluding myself from the list.. i probably am like that only...
possesive
insecure
anyway.... i just hope things just work out fine for both of them... coz if they do not ... this guy needs a serious kick in his butt !!! that girl is giving up her nature for him... she is changing herself for him.. he must be one helluva guy... am i jealous.. yeah... i think i am... am i angry... yes i am ....
would i let go...
YES I WILL
dat friend is definately missing talkin to u...,missing a friend like u...
ReplyDeleteInteresting!!!
ReplyDeleteWell, i was asked to read the blog and i did. and i so wanted to say it that i had to create a blog myself...i am wasting my time.
ReplyDeleteI had to say something to you Prashant and that anonymous friend of yours....in life nothing is permanent. there are very few people who walk through the stretch of life with you. And in the end it is really nice that people leave...for in the short span of time when you were fortunate enough to meet a true friend...their memory walks with you and it is really worth it. i know it pains prashant but wouldn't you rather go through this pain instead of thinking you had never made that friend and also to that friend...same goes for you...
it was your choice...
hmm...
ReplyDeletegirls friends? ...lol
@ Anony 1 : I am sure... but i think you took a wise decision... i am with you in this...
ReplyDelete@ Anony 2 : yes... very .... for ppl not involved... very !!!
@ Anony 3 : I know whatever you have said.. and i do keep and carry with me the good that happened... thanks for the words...
@ Toosh : What was that about?
@ Aqui : True... the only thing permanent in this world is Change . Brings me to another question... are our life's happinesses all about temporary phases which bring smiles.... might write about it sometime...
ReplyDeleteone correction...the phrase is-- the only thing "constant" (and not permanenet) in life is change...try to think it makes a lot of difference..
ReplyDeleteother thing....u wrote this as a friend who lost a friend because of a boyfriend or lover...try thinking as a lover or boyfreind,and ask urself if u never expected special treatment ?.....give allowance to others behaviour,ofcourse this is not to say that their behaviour is justified...anyways i kno u will be wise to interpret it correctly
@ anony : Thanks for correcting me..
ReplyDeleteand now my turn... if you've read the post with some attention... you would have noticed that i have not excluded myself from the list of ppl who are like the boyfriend this friend of mine has... thanks anyway !!!
My ex-girlfriend wrote to me about this post... here is what she had to write :
ReplyDeleteHi Prashant.... i read something on .. why girlfreinds can not have friends.... on ur blog...
just would like to say ---- look who is talking ---- may be just coz u r on the other side this time.... ;)
i hope u wont mind....
Cheers,
One more person who missed out on the fact that I included myself in the list of the boyfriends who are like this....