I have always thought about expectations and how they make you weak.. how they make you loose control over yourself as a person.. how easily they make you like someone or get angry when that someone does not meet some of your expectations...
its strange how even after I knowing everything and probably understanding most of it get into the trap of expectations...were the lessons learnt last year not good enough for me or what...
today prashant is angry with himself... and he promises himself YET AGAIN... that he is going to improve as a human being...as a person... easier said then done... human after all a human... can't really fight nature.. can i...
i am sorry i cd not meet ur expectations..infact am sorry i cd not meet so many pple's expectation..especially when the question is to live up to one persons expectation at the cost of anothers..y can't i keep everyone happy??...i was sad to hear that this episode reminded u of some unhappy moments which u went thru last year...and how much i had thought i wd not b makin u sad like the last time u were with someone..last year...but lill can i do...at times i am torn between the expectations of pple close to me..and my own from them...i too EXPECT them to understand y i cd not live up to their expecations...personally i do not give as much weightage to whether one ived up to it or not ..but to whether one TRIED...or WANTED to live up to them or not...but i kno it ai'nt possible for all to think like i do....it is so sad that i am makin good human beings..ppple i love feel the disgust they associated with bad relationships of their past when they compare my relationship to them......all coz i DID NOT LIVE UP TO THEIR EXPECTATIONS..
ReplyDeleteu r as best a human u can b and it is normal and human to expect...i don't think there can b any soothing words that any one can provide to calm u down...may b some ppl like me shd kno how to keep pple they care abt happy and not let down...
Tried.... great word.. and very genuine too... i understand you were trying... you know you were trying... but just trying does not really help my dear friend...
ReplyDeletewe might appreciate trying once twrice thrice or do not know how many times depending on what kinda patience levels we carry... but there comes some day when you really want things to happen not just hear that you are trying....specially when you realise that trying is really not taking you anywhere... you want more... kya karen control hi nahin hota !!!
and there was not disgust involved in the entire incident... and there was no comparison... the only thing common between the last year and this year and all the years of my life is my poor understanding or expectations vs. living upto them.. i am still at a stage where even though i claim to understand the terms nicely and always... mix up things... having expectations really does not mean that you force ppl to live upto them... having expectations does not mean that you feel bad about the other person not taking care of them they way you want to...having expectations does not really mean that you will get everything that you wish for... they are just expectations.. simple wishes that at times might be justified and logical too... but still that does not guarantee that they will happen as per you wanted them to happen...
anyway... long gyan on what i thought.. i guess i am just trying to make myself understand...
i really cant blame the ppl who expect cuz i myself have still not been able to come to terms with my own expectations
ReplyDeleteto me & to prashant - what we can do is maybe we can just look at somebody who cant even expect that we are so easily expecting...
to me & to anony - u cant help feeling unhappy after expecting and not getting cuz ur helpless, helpless cuz u so much belive that u arent getting what belongs to u...
I read it somewhere:
ReplyDeleteAnger always comes from frustrated expectations
and I also thought that i will not expect anything from anybody. but you know Prashant its HUMANE... no matter wat you do or wat you are, if you are working, interacting, making friends or doing anything else...if there is something for which u have to depend on anybody else. then u will have expectations, you can't run away from them.
SO lets not try to kill the expectations but maybe we can control some of them which will ultimately become so called : FRUSTRATED EXPECTATION