2 MuCh 2 tHiNk !!

What is happening these days... my shimla trip gave me so many thoughts that i cannot possibly write them down.. there is so much that I can think about.. and there is so much that i think i have forgotten... i come to think about it. and i feel there is so much load on my head that it would burst under pressure...

Me, sushant, waquar and tushar.. kept talking about life and ppl and relationships and whatever we could think of... i came to know about things which they think about, how they think about them.. and how they want to take care of those.. there is so much that i cannot even think of writing everything in here... we talked about.. who is an intelligent person... who do we think would be the ideal girl for marriage... why do we men want a different woman for a girlfriend and for a wife... tushar in his blog has writted about emotional dependence as well.. which we discussed in the bus on our way to shimla and i do not even remember that discussion...

i guess i am better off talking about it then writing it...

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may be continued

DiWaLi - A DeSi pOiNt 'O' ViEw

Thanks to my dear friend Tigeross !!! i got this email where I see the same old Ramayana in a new avtaar !!! Can call it the remix Ramayan !!! Here it goes !!!

A young second generation Indian in the US was askedby his mother to explain the significance of "Diwali"to his younger brother, this is how he went aboutit...

" So, like this dude had, like, a big cool kingdomand people liked him. But, like, his step-mom, orsomething, was kind of a bitch, and she forced herhusband to, like, send this cool-dude, he was Ram, tosome national forest or something... Since he wasgoing, for like, something like more than 10 years orso.. he decided to get his wife and his bro along...you know...so that they could all chill out together.

But Dude, the forest was reeeeal scary shit... reallyman... they had monkeys and devils and shit like that.But this dude, Ram, kicked ass with darts and bows andarrows... so it was fine. But then some bad gangstaboys, some jerk called Ravan, picks up his babe (Sita)and lures her away to his hood. And boy, was our man,and also his bro, Laxman, pissed... And youdon't piss this son-of-a-gun cuz, he just kicks assand like... all the gods were with him... Soanyways,you don't mess with gods. So, Ram, andhis bro get an army of monkeys.. Dude, don't ask mehow they trained the damn monkeys... just go alongwith me, ok... so, Ram, Lax and their monkeys whipthis gangsta's ass in his own hood. Anyways, bythis time, their time's up in the forest..andanyways...it gets kinda boring,you know... no TV ormalls or shit like that. So,they decided tohitch a ride back home... and when the people realizethat our dude, his bro and the wife are back home...they thought, well, you know, at least they deservesomething nice... and they didn't have any bars orclubs in those days... so they couldn't take them outfor a drink, so they, like, decided to smoke andshit...and since they also had some lamps, they litthe lamps also... so it was pretty cooool... you knowwith all those fireworks... Really, they even had somelocal band play along with the fireworks... and youknow, what, dude, that was the very first, nokidding.., that was the very first music-synchronizedfireworks... youknow, like the 4th of July stuff, but just, morecooler and stuff, youknow. And, so dude, that was how, like, this festivalstarted."

Do I mAke U sMiLe :)

I am wondering what this blogging thing is all about...Is it about sharing the philosophies (i think i have spelt it incorrectly) of life... or the things which make us think and think and think... i do not remember the last time i laughed after reading something on the blog of tushar or mine... why !!! I think I am adding to the sadness already there by always putting in the things which make the smile go away from my face and the face of the ppl who are reading this blog...and making them think and write about things that i initiate thoughts on...

Well Well Well... what am i thinking today.. i am thinking about putting in something that brings a smile to the face of the ppl who read it... and what could be better then one of the small discussions i had with a friend last night...

She was telling me that the tall girls do not have any brains at all... and then i came up with my theory about God after her statement... AND I think God is short in height... actually when he makes tall girls he is not able to reach the head coz the girl is tall and that is why tall girls do not have their share of grey matter... hehehehe... no offence to anyone please... and i hope some relegious group does not get me arrested for writing such comments about God...

Ok.. here is more to smile and laugh about....
Read it... looks long but its really good.....

"Your name?"
"Dinesh."
"How do you spell it?"
"D-I-N...."
"Slow, slow, T?"
"No, D."
"Is that T as in Tom, or D as in Dennis?"
"No, not Dennis, my name is Dinesh."
"I know that. I am asking you, is that a T as in Tom, or D as in as in Detroit?"
"I don't know who Tom is, and I haven't been to Detroit. I just came to the US from Madras."
"OK, OK, I know that. Is that T-I- or D-I- ?"
"D. D-I-. D-I-N-E-S-H."
"Is that your last name or first name?"
"Uh? Dinesh is my name."
"OK. What is your LAst name?"
"That is my first and last name. Dinesh."
"Then, is your name Dinesh Dinesh?"
"No. My name is Dinesh."
"But what is your LAST NAME? I am ASKING YOU ABOUT YOUR LAST NAME."
"I told you, Dinesh. I always had the same name, from birth till now.
DINESH. That's my name."
"OK, what is your family name?"
"Family? Family name? My family doesn't have a name."
"What do the neighbors call you?"
"Dinesh."
"Not you. Your whole family. What do they call your family?"
"Beedida bhat'rr."
"So, that is your family name. Do you understand?
" How do you spell that?"
"Spell what?"
"B.D. whatever you said, what your neighbors call your family."
"Oh, that ... Beedida bhat'rr.
"What do you need that for? It only means 'the brahmin who makes beedis.'"
"What are B-Ds?"
"Not B-D. Beedi, is like a cigarette, you see, they roll the tobacco in a leaf and tie a thread around it. 25 in a kattu."
"25 in a what?"
"Kattu, or katta, whatever. Like a bunch, you see. If there is even one less or one more, my father could always tell without counting. He then taught me how to do it."
"I am not worried about your 'cutter' or whatever.
What-is-your-last-name?"
"I told you, Dinesh."
"OK, OK, I don't want to go over this again. What is common to the names of all the members of your family?"
"They are all in Sanskrit. My first sister is Suneetha, the second sister is Sumathi ... "
"Not about the language. When you write your name, and your sister writes her name, what do you two have in common?"
"We have the same handwriting. Even my father can't tell our handwritings apart."
"Blast it! What is your father's name?"
"G.K.Nettar."
"What does G.K. stand for?"
"His name, Gopala Krishna."
"Then what is Nettar?"
"That is our house name."
"House name? Aha, does every one at your house have this name?"
"It is not our name. It is the name of our house. Strictly speaking, it should be Honnadka. But my father was too lazy to change it. My father was born in Honnadka, but, see, my grandfather was born in Nettar."
"What was his name?"
"I told you, G.K.Nettar."
"Your grandfather was also called G.K. whatever?"
"No. That is my father."
"Then what is your grandfather's name?"
"Govinda Bhat. See, my relatives still call me Mangalore Govinda.
Because it is a tradition to name the first son after his grandfather.
All the brothers of my father have done this. So, we have Honnadka Govinda, Jogibettu Govinda, Kanchodu Govinda, and I am Mangalore Govinda."
"So, then, your name is Mangalore Govinda, not Dinesh."
"No. My name is Dinesh. Mangalore Govinda is how my relatives call me.
That is not my NAme."
"What do they call your sister?"
"Ammanni."
"What? You said her name is Sooneetha."
"Yes, that is her name, Suneetha, but we call her Ammanni."
"Is that her nick-name?"
"No. she doesn't have a nick name. Only our neighbor's daughter has a nick name. She is called 'soote'. She is very active. That's why."
"What about your brother?"
"I have no brothers. But then, you can count all those Govindas as my brothers too. See, they are really kind of my brothers."
"OK, what are their names?"
"The oldest one, he is my big brother. He is called GovindaNNa."
"Govind Anna? Then Anna is his last name."
"No, ANNA, not anna. ANNA means big brother."
"What is his NAME?"
"His name is Govinda Bhat."
"Then your last name is But."
"Not but, Bhat, B-H-A-T. But that's not his name, you see."
"If that's not his name, what is it? Why does he have it in his name?"
"Bhat simply means he is a brahmin. He might as well write Rao,like his father does, or Sharma, like my father's second brother does."
"How does he write his name in official papers?"
"Nettar Govinda Bhat. That's how he writes it."
"How does his father write it?"
"Nettar Venkata Subba Rao."
"Aha, I can see now. Your father is G.K.Nettar, his brother is Nettar something Rao... your last name is then Nettar. Aha, I got it."
"But Nettar is not the last name. It is the house name."
"I don't care. Tell me one last time, what is YOUR last name?"
"But I told you, my last name is the same as my first name, my only name, Dinesh."
"Then, I am going to write Nettar here. I don't care if it is your house name, your grandfather's name, your dog's name, whatever. It is your last name. How do you spell it? N-E-..."
"N-E-T-T-A-R."
"N-E-T-T-? Is that T as in Tom or D as in Dennis?"
"My name is Dinesh, not Dennis."
"AARRGGHHHHH. Do we have to go through this again? Here, write it down."
"That's it. From now on, you are Dinesh Nettar, Dinesh is your first name, and Nettar is your last name. OK?

MeT A fRiEnD

Met miss super intelligent yesterday. Strange si feeling thi... to go ahead and meet someone who have never seen, but talked to... so i reached her place in the evening, ofcourse with some guidance from her... and met her... it was pretty normal... as if we were not meeting for the first time but knew each other for a while.. actually we know each other for a while... we've been interacting on the phone and thru emails and chat.. so no hassles.. this is was another part of her that i met yesterday.. first impression of someone who wrote that loooooooooooooooooooong email about women in india.. and what are they upto and all those things... the chats and the talks told me about a person who was very cheerful, and bubbly, and intelligent, and someone who wanted to make it big in her life... and when i met her yesterday... i met a very sweet girl, who was a kid at heart and was smiling and laughing while telling me about her Goa trip... lovely fotos though... and i managed to steal one of them for myself too...

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its good to be friends with ppl who have everything that you need in a friend... they can be serious when you are in that mode.. they can cheer you up when you are sad... and would also do all the stupid things in this world to make you wonder if they are the same ppl who were so different a while ago... somehow this is a quality that i feel we all look forward to in our friends.. and thank God, most of the ppl i call friends understand all these flavours of life..

God Bless them ALL !!!

Amen :)

GoT a caLL !!!

Today a very good friend of mine gave me a call... Though we do not get the opportunity to talk a lot these days.. but she always makes it a point to read this blog and keep herself updated with what is happening in my life ( how sweet of her ) so what was i saying.. she today found out that i was down with chicken pox and first thing that she did was call me to find out how was i....

though i am fine... back in office.. but this concern was very touching.. and i was really happy to get this call... good friends are so rare to find these days... i really cherish the ones that i have.. God bless them all...

bAcK 2 WoRk

Tommorow i am going to join office after two weeks... Its feeling a li'il awkward.. infact i am feeling tired only at the thought of it.. sitting on those chairs which make a normal person feel too tired after a day's work !!!
anyway...i need to take care of a lot of things..

this chicken pox... one of the worst times of my life...

MiXeD eMoTiOnS

How many times in our day, our week... we go through extreme emotions.. we are smiling at one moment.. and the very next moment we feel that our eyes are wet...
why does that happen...
when does that happen..

do i remember the last time it happened to me.. i do not.. but i remember that it happens with me. a lot.. specially when i am watching a movie about some sport.. when the team which were always treated bad finally wins in the end !!! i know i can cry if i am watching that movie alone... but emotions do run high... real high....

ViRGiNiTy : DiGNiTy OR LaCk Of OpPoRtUNiTy

My thoughts from ORKUT about a topic that we can keep discussing about... its worth it.. but would it reach a conclusion.. i don't know...

(*_*) 10/18/2004 10:25 PM
The thread for sure invokes some serious thoughts.. but I would like to understand why do you have to start off something that is worth talking about anonymously !!!C'mon !!!!About marrying someone who is a virgin or not.. i guess that takes the back seat if you think that you can spend the rest of your life with the person.. getting married is a big decision and each and everything that might cause a damage to your relationship should be thought about... Its very hard to be honest very upfront to the person you are about to get married.. why? the reason is the fear of rejection !!!I would like to know from the gentlemen who have written posts here : Have you told all your girlfriends about your previous affairs.. about how many times you kissed your Ex. or even slept with her?
I had a tough time doing that in my previous relationship.. and we almost broke up after i said the truth !!! Things still did not work out well... but the point that i am trying to make here is that.. its easier said then done.. I respect each and every person here who says that the past of their life partner would not make a difference in their opinion and they would still go ahead and marry !!!

(*_*) 10/18/2004 10:36 PM
Oh.. and yes.. i would marry someone who has the guts and honesty to be upfront about her past.. in fact that is going to make me respect her more then i would have otherwise !!!

(*_*) 10/24/2004 11:24 PM
This is a topic that we can continue discussing on till infinity... Girls would most of the time assume that the guys have already slept with their girlfriends whenever they had one.. and boys would also assume the same.. we for some reason do not stop there and ask our partner if that really happened.. the fear of rejection stops us from asking this question.. and most of the time.. because we ourself have been physically close to person in our past we usually avoid talking about this topic...
Like most of us around.. i also would like to have a wife who has not slept with her boyfriend.. and i am sure the girl who marries me would be expecting the same.. but the ground reality is the most of the time in our relationships we get physically close and makes it getting out of them difficult... at times we suffer the feeling of guilt after it as well.. even though we had enjoyed every kiss which happened...
now what i feel i need to understand is that just like me my wife would also have a past and she might or might not have been physically close to her boyfriend... whatever said and done.. i would like to look at a future together and make that present better and not keep sticking to the past... it happened... its over... if she and i are willing.. we might not even let it effect our lives... words like trust, faith, commitment, love, truth, which seem only mere words after a break up... take their true shape after you have that special someone in your life...

(*_*) 10/24/2004 11:56 PM
(This post was a response to a post by Richa)
Guys would have reason to sleep around with every woman they go around with.. and Girls if not with the same frequency, but would still go ahead and have sex... Talking about why it happened.. and why someone still managed to be untouched is something that is completely personal in nature... Cannot classify it between the sexes.. though there might be reasons why guys are seen more interested in it then females...
I did not have sex so far and I am not ashamed of it... I do not say i have reasons to be proud of it either... and i am sure.. if there are other men in this forum who have not slept with some girl would have reasons to be ashamed or be proud of the same...

(*_*) 10/25/2004 4:42 AM
(This post was a response to a post by Tarun where he said that given a choice he would prefer to choose the non-virgin girls...)
@ Tarun : What do you mean by Choose the non-virgin girls ? I mean what do you think.. you will have women lined up in front of you with tags stating how many men they slept with or did not.. and for that matter.. how many guys would be true to the woman they are about to marry about their pre-marital affairs and how many times they had sex. Come to terms with life... what is a fact is a fact and if it happened in the past it better stay there... And not effect the future you have to have together... Also, if a guy goes ahead and sleeps around with 10 different women. he would be labelled a casanova by his friends and he would have a lot to boast about.. but if the same is done by a girl.. the same guy would not be too far away from calling her a whore and making sure that he tells the same to all of his friends... And at the same time would try to lay her down too... C'mon guys... when we talk about being practical i would still say tht being practical means taking the truth head on and see what is the best you can make out of it ..by either leaving it and accepting it...