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06/10/09

what's in a (last) name?

Aro called me today to discuss what was the full name of Ram!

My instant reaction was Ram Prasad (with my love for Golmal, I could not have come up with something better)
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Actually he had called me to tell me that Ram was a South Indian!

He said, D. Ram (and that he was a South Indian) D for Dashrath, and then improvised and said D.A.Ram for Dashrath Ayodhya Ram (and we could go on from there)

and then we got into a more serious discussion about when did we Indians started using sir-names or like a lot of people call them, last names!

From how I see it, Indians probably had last names for a very long time, however they were not being used very often because no artifacts being created for the names... no forms were being filled, no admissions happened with paper trails, or salaries being distributed with signed forms... and a lot of people had salutations being used instead of last names!

I could immediately think of second names of any characters that I know from the past except maybe Tulsi - Das? Kabir also had a second name, but I cannot remember it right now, and he was mostly referred to as Sant Kabir!

Yudhisthir, Ram, Lakshman, Ravan, Krishn, Bhardwaj, Dronacharya, Parashuram, Akbar, Birbal, Babar, and so on are a few names out of the many that I remember and none have a popular second name reference that I know of... they have salutations though!

I now recall some names from history, like Sher Shah Suri, Bahadur Shad Zafar, Jalal ud-din Mohammad Akbar. Akbar was more popular by his Last name, so to speak, and was the son of Mohammad Humayun (Complete Title : "Al-Sultan al-'Azam wal Khaqan al-Mukarram, Jam-i-Sultanat-i-haqiqi wa Majazi, Sayyid al-Salatin, Abu'l Muzaffar Nasir ud-din Muhammad Humayun Padshah Ghazi"). Humayun's father Babar, had a rather easy complete name, Zahir ud-din Muhammad Jalal ud-din Babur. So it seems to me that Mughals were also using some sort of salutation and the reference to Mohammad in their names!

As far as Hindu kings and emperors go, I remember some names like Chandragupta Maurya, however there are multiple views on his last name Maurya and his origin, however he is referred to mostly as Chandragupta only. Another name is Hemu Chandra Vikramaditya!!!

I spent a little more time reading about these names and people and seems like while the second names, or sir names, or Family names ( either before or after the name) have been there for centuries, they have not been very popular in the locals, or maybe they were! We would not know someone who is not that popular from history anyway!

With the coming of English to India, I think paper trails were introduced, documentation and collection of artifacts and forms started which made the use of second/sir names a much popular and now indispensable norm!

Thoughts?



For a long time my take on history was what the first few lines of this song are :) with time, I have realized that I do care more than what I used to !!!


16/07/09

Do in Rome as Romans do!


You know you are turning amreekan if

1. You have a coffee cup or its holder in your car, in your bag, on your desk, in your kitchen, on your dining table, on your "Coffee" table, next to your wash basin and in your hand

2. If you reach office early, let's say before 8 or at times 7:30 am and also leave early

3. If you, when it gets hot, walk around with your t-shirt on your shoulders instead of wearing it

4. If you feel that a horn is an unnecessary part of an automobile

5. If you wear a t-shirt (polo style) with trousers and a formal leather belt and formal shoes

Or if you wear a tshirt(polo style) with short(formal looking) with a formal leather belt and sports or casual shoes

6. You wonder how people live in these countries every single time someone talks to you about India or China or Sri Lanka. And would have a never ending list of things which are not good about India and a longer never ending list of how everything can be resolved

7. If you do not associate Asia with India and visa versa! Asians are Chinese! Indians are Pakistani! and Pakistani are Indian! Bangadeshi and Sri Lankans ! well, Indians again!

8. If you fail to understand why the traffic moves at an average of 50 kmph in countries like India

9. If your footpaths are now called CURBS, if your washbasin taps are now called FAUCETS, if the policemen are now called cops! oh no! not cops, but KHAAPS (read it like PAAP in Hindi), if your taxis are now called CABS

10. If a burger or a sandwich can be treated as lunch

11. If you look for a fat free sign on almost everything that you buy from the grocery store. And one thing that you will always find in your fridge is "I can't believe its not butter".

12. If your kitchen does not have a door

13. If you have a panic attack if you cannot find a tissue roll in your bathroom even though there is a perfectly nice and shining mug kept there

14. The only way to take a bath that you know is a shower. You don't know what to do with a bucket and a mug

15. If you don't know that touching elder's feet is a way of expressing respect like nothing else

16. If you don't stare at cleavages and legs in aww

17. If you don't look around before a lip kiss and after

18. If you start living in today, and not the past and not the future

19. If your requests for credit cards are getting rejected because of a bad credit history

20. If you are ok with paying for incoming phone calls and text messages

21. If you have a pair of running shoes, a pair of walking shoes, a pair of hiking shoes, a pair of office shoes, a pair of casual shoes along some specific running shorts, swimming shorts, walking shorts, casual shorts, short shorts, long shorts and so on...

22. If you have a mp3 player "with" an arm band

23. If you like to eat a cheese burger with diet coke

24. AND, if you stop missing a Chai ki Dukaan at the road side on the highways, or shall we call them Freeways!

What is the relevance of the picture? nothing! I just happen to like the color in there!

06/11/08

English, whats the big deal?

One of the best experiences of working in a foreign country is the way your thoughts about English, change !!!

In India, it still stays a BIGGGG deal, and in the UK or US, its just another language... We still look down upon people who cannot speak english and are more comfortable in their own languages, but here I really do not see people judging you by the language you speak !!!

There are people who speak English ridiculously, and some who have a horrible accent, or have a very very very heavy MTI (Mother Tongue Influence) but guess what !!! It does not matter, till you can "communicate" well !!!

I say, forget about how well you can speak English, and how many bigg words you know... just think of how well you communicate... rest does not really matter !!!

One of my meetings today was chaired by a lady from China, had 5 Indians from Gharwal, Punjab, Maharashtra, UP and Madras, and all the Americans had a different accent too !!! still the meeting went super well !!!

English, after all, is no BIG DEAL !!!


27/05/08

Facing Myself...

Mirror Mirror on the wall...

Tell me only what I like, don't tell me all !!!

Thats how I am... I think everyone else too... But then its a generalization and is completely subject to individual opinion and perceptions...

Having said that, I find it strange and still struggle with doing something my way, and accepting the same thing when someone else does it !!!

In simpler words, when I act in a certain way, or behave in a specific manner, I find it fine and want it to be acceptable, however when someone else does the same thing, I raise a question, I judge, I reach a conclusion about the other person, I stop talking, I shut them up and other things....

And it only gets interesting and harder to handle, when I am talking to someone like me :)

20/05/08

Sharp Turn Ahead...

They had met just once... Long time back ! Felt like a decade or something, but it was just 6 months ago...

Both scared, both afraid of things that had happened in the past, but still keen on taking a step towards each other, towards something that they felt was strong enough to let the bond stay...

The first meeting was over even before it started, or atleast it felt like how it was... but still it was long enough for each of them to hold on to something till they meet next... though both of them were not sure when would that really happen... or if that will even happen or not...

They waited...
They laughed...
They fought...
They expected...
They Got...
They were irritated...
They were strong...
They had a faith...
which was to last for long...
They missed...
They cared...
They wanted to say a lot, but none of them dared...
Something they said, some they left just like that...

Time was slower then it usually is, for the period they were away from each other... But like time is expected to, it did pass !!!

Things happened, both bad and good...

And time just passed... with that strong thin thread, which both of them kept holding on to...

And today !

Its a different day...

They are not two people anymore... they are a couple...

He is not a boy anymore... he is a husband...
She is not a girl anymore... She is a wife...

That thin thread has survived the test of time, and it has only grown stronger !!!

Life has a new meaning today... Brilliant !!!

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On a lighter note...

28/04/08

A To Do and Done list...

Things to do when you are not too well :

1. Go out and spend time doing something that takes your mind away from the sickness !!! like I did... went out with the DFC gang ( about 20 of them is what I counted :), there could be more)

The Camera Party...

Mon and Sonu at the Fort...

I am not very comfortable being clicked... but your logic just does not work at times...

So the sunday morning well spent @ Tuglaqabad fort... followed by a session of Hindi Scrabble at the Saket Barista !!!
Nandita, Arun and Japs...

Monika and Sonu again...


The ladies in the DFC... Concept : Sonu; clicked by Me...

I am not too fond of Chocolate, but for some reason I don't mind having it these days...

Thoughts going into the game of Hindi Scrabble @ Barista Saket...

Absolute fun... its only when I was back that I realized how low on energy I was...

2. A couple of short and long naps during the day

3. Buy a Cycle ! Yes... I bought a cycle, A Hercules MTB; 6 gears, and drove it to home through the small streets enjoying the zip, while Aro, the actual owner of the new cycle followed me in a car :D

4. Be; Do what you like, what makes you feel better, and try and not feel too bad about things around !!!

5. Buy pearl necklaces for Mom...

6. Meet someone who without any selfish interest says something about you that makes a lot of sense... and then says it about Aro, and leaves us speechless !

7. Fight with one of your best friends over smallest of things like why is it that he cannot sit properly while eating, and why he has to laugh when you are feeling so low

8. Discuss Hitler, Jews, Kite Runner, Red Bands (Read Ray Bans), and lots more !!!

9. Hope for a great day the next day !!

and did I mention that I got clicked too :) here is a picture clicked by a dear friend... Though I am not very happy with my expressions here, but I love the presentation and the details !!!
You might want to check some more of her work HERE.

22/03/08

The Jungle Kilometres and back to Jabalpur....

Me and Aro talk a li'il too much when there is no walking around to do... and that means that we sleep late... and we did... Even after more than 24 hours of non stop journey, we still had some time and energy left to argue, get into some last minute fights, plan for the next trip, the next day, and then slept away to glory around midnight....

We had filled in the forms the previous night to enter the park so did not have much to do in the morning except wake up on time, have a quick cup of tea, and rush to the gypsy which was ready to rock and roll... Manoj was our driver, and he looked like a pretty quiet fella, and he turned out to be one lost character too... too bad, but never mind...

Good Morning Kanha :)

So we were at the Kisli Gate around 0600 hrs, the main gate had already opened, and we were let in quickly... 3 kms later was the main gate of the park, which is where a route and an essential guide is assigned to the gypsy.... Our park guide for the day was Dinesh Kumar Soni... a young but enthusiastic fella... was ok with admitting that he was in the second layer of the guides, but this enthu and nature made up more than enough for some lack of knowledge... not that we were taking notes anyway...

The road leading inside the Kanha National Park through the Kisli Gate...

Kanha is full of Saal Trees... and here is a small point of view about Saal..

Sau Saal Khada
Sau Saal Pada
Sau Saal Sada

Saal Tree

Stands for 100 yrs, lies does for another 100 and takes 100 more to decay...

This is the same tree, wood from which was used to make a base for the railway lines sometime back, which is now replaced by concrete and iron...

Dinesh Kumar Soni, our guide on day 1

Manoj Kumar, our Driver...

So we moved around the park on the route number 10 looking at animals, trees, dust, listening to many birds stopping and moving and stopping and moving...

Barahsingha and the Spotted Deer...

Sambhar

A Spotted deer shooing a Peacock away... A chase of its own kind... was pretty interesting...

The Indian Gaur (Bison)

In the center of the park (The Kanha Side) we took a break, had breakfast and also registered for the Tiger Show... At a fee of 100 rs. per head you are taken to a spot where tiger is seen, and then you climb the elephant back and go into the bushes to have a face to face with the jungle CAT....

Shooting with straight steady hands...

And with Steady Legs too...

Gypsys parked inside the Park; This is where we registered for the Tiger Show... The wait at times can be a couple of hours long...

We did too... and when I saw the tiger, I was hoping that he does not look at me, because I could sense the attitude in his eyes and I was having mixed feelings of excitement, fear, nervousness etc etc... but it was really sad to see how the Elephants were made to chase the tiger to make sure people who have paid get to see the tiger... and this poor animal only kept running around to avoid the crowd.. but then how can we step back... we are known to bully when the other person is backing off... so all the gypsy drivers, the 4 mahauts were after this poor guys life... I only wonder what would happen if the TIGER decides to charge... on second thoughts, this tiger show is generating a lot of revenue for the park which I feel is essential, and is also helping the park give employment to loads of local people around.... I feel a balance is what needs to be made though, these wild cats needs their space and independence and should not be bothered like I saw... it hurts...

Does this one need a caption?


People waiting for the tiger to show up... This is near the tiger show spot...

Our Safari finished by 1200 hrs, and we were back in the resort by 1230 hrs... all covered in dust, the first thing I noticed when I entered the resort was the swimming pool... and I knew what I was going to do next... so a rushed walk to the room, and a even more rushed walk to the pool... and 45 minutes of fun... Even managed to have the hippo who walks like an elephant to take a bath in the pool... And Aro loved it too :D

Much needed Sprite after the Safari...

And Tea...

Had some real good lunch and slept but not before we planned to get up around 1600 hrs to take a hike into the jungle to a few nearby villages... but we managed to wake up only by 1530 hrs and obviously the plans to walk around were to be canceled...

Some wild flowers inside the Jungle

At tea, we met Mr. Pramod Singh who manages Foreign traffic to Kanha and is a active member of loads of wildlife clubs and has been an avid trekker himself... He also suggested that he could join us for the safari next morning, which did sound like a good idea...

We had tea and got talking to a few people around the resort, one of which was a driver called Dilip, the elder brother of Manoj... Dilip had been around for a while, and that small 30 minute conversation with him was full of many interesting stories about the tigers and other wild cats making rounds of places... it was a very very interesting half hour of the trip... and then he suddenly decided to give us a night safari, and we left the resort around 1900 hrs... and kept driving around till 2130 hrs in the dark... did not see many animals but the sky was obviously wonderful, and the dark interesting...

Were finally back and decided to eat quickly and call it a day, to wake up early and be the first in the queue. Told Mr. Singh that we would be ready by 0515 hrs...

So next morning we indeed were ready by 0515 hrs, and left only to realized that we were a li'il too early for the gates to open... We still were the 3rd gypsy in the queue, filled the forms and managed to reach the main Kisli gate around 0545 hrs... I think the route number today was 14... Manoj was at his lost best, and the guide even though knew a lot, was put off by a few remarks made by Mr. Pramod when we started the safari...

Mr. Pramod Singh... a very knowledgeable man and a avid trekker...

Highlights of the day were Bisons, some spotted deer, the barking deer, and some foreigners with loads of 1Ds and L Series lenses... I think that group of 4 had 2 EOS 1D each loaded with L series lenses of different focal lengths... phew !!!
Tall Saal Trees around the jungle...

Barking Dear oops... Deer :P

Langoors eating Soil... Don't ask me why... I did, and I was told they like it... Yes, it was Soil and not insects in it...

The second day, Aro and me agreed was more or less of a waste in the jungle... and I guess to compensate we ate like wild animals at lunch... whoever said that eat light when you are traveling may please go to HELL :D

The Mahauts in the Jungle... you can see a bag with a Walky Talky used to communicate the location of the Tiger for the Tiger Show

so a stomach full as full is, and a body not ready to move, we checked out of the Mogli Resorts and rushed to catch the 1330 hrs bus, but only to realize that it had already left... and the next bus was about an hour later...

This bus ride was also very interesting as expected...

A Baby Parrot called Mitthu by everyone who saw him in the bus...

Mitthu eating some Chana out of the hands of his caretaker in the bus... he would happily sleep when the bus was moving, and make loads of noise when it stopped... Cute Kiddie he was...

We changed the bus at Mandla again, which reach Jabalpur around 2000 hrs with one pitstop at Narainkunj...

A quick pitstop before Mandla... interesting air blown Angithi at a Tea Shop there...

Mandla : Local Cinema Poster Man...

Pitstop @ Narainkunj (About 40 kms from Mandla)

So here we were in Jabalpur, with an open plan... we could stay back in Jabalpur and go to Duandhar the next morning and then move to Piparia and to Pachmadi (where we planned to stay for the next two days) or we could go to Piparia straightaway and go to Pachmadi the next morning... we knew that Piparia was about 4 hours away by train and decided to take the Overnight express (Jabalpur to Bhopal; leaves Jabalpur @ 2300 hrs and reaches Bhopal at 0615 hrs)...

We check the availability and then moved to the booking clerk (with the train number this time) who suggested that we could take the ticket from the counter at the station itself in about an hours time... This is when Aro realized that he had dropped his mobile and we rushed to the bus stand only to search the bus without any success... not too good an incident, but we could not really do much about it... so we let it be...

Came back to the station, took the tickets for the overnight, and then asked one of the guys at the counter about a decent place to have dinner and he was kind enough to walk us to the restaurant... We had our food without much talking as we were pretty tired and were only waiting for the clock to strike 11...

We finally boarded the train, and found out that the train leaves Piparia at 0230 hrs which was definitely not a convenient time to reach any new station... but the thought of doing something of that sort was exciting enough for us to change our minds anyway... and so we slept... only to be woken up by the kind hearted TC at 0130 hrs ( so about an hour and half of sleep) because the train had already reached Piparia...

We quickly walked out of the coach thinking that the stoppage was quick there, but looks like the train reached there well before time and was only waiting to leave at its scheduled time... so we sat on the platform bench, thinking if we should sleep on the platform itself ( which honestly did NOT seem to be a bad idea) or walk around and find a hotel... after a lousy cup of tea, some odomos rubbing on the arms to avoid the killer mosquitoes, and some serious thinking later we decided to walk around the town to find a hotel for ourselves :)

Chai Ki Dukaan @ Piparia Station

It did turn out to be a very good idea because it did not take us much hardships to find a decent, rather more than decent Alka Hotel with an AC room for 400 bucks a night... its a different story that i twisted my ankle bad enough to almost scream in pain in the middle of a desert lane in a town which was sleeping silently at that hour :)

Piparia Station from the Overbridge; You can also see the Overnight Express in the left

So here we were... Piparia, Hotel Alka, Room number 203, AC on.. and a TV and we talking again.. God when would these conversations finish... I don't know when I slept and when Aro did, or who slept first... all I remember is waking up the next morning, all fresh and happy happy...

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Now some travel information

Safari Costs:
900 per gypsy (Morning Safari; 0600 hrs to 1200 hrs)
700 per gypsy( Evening Safari; 1600 hrs to Sunset about 2 hours usually)
Entry per gypsy : Rs. 650 (500 entry charges + 150 guide fees)
Gates open 0600 hrs in the morning
Approximate per night expenditure in Kanha : Rs. 1200 per head to 1800 per head depending on the place you are staying in...
Kanha to Mandla : Rs. 36
Mandle to Jabalpur : Rs. 50
Jabalpur to Piparia ( 3rd AC ) : Rs. 300 something...

To Do:
Carry water
Carry Dust Brush
Cover Your Camera to save it from the dust when you are not using it
Enjoy the jungle and the sounds ( They are more then enough to make you fall in love with the place)
Ask questions (thats what the guide is there for)

Do Nots
Avoid Changing lenses ( Carry two cameras instead)
Avoid throwing stuff on the road or walking on the road except the designated areas
And blah and blah and blah...

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What happens the day we wake up in Piparia is pretty interesting... and I am happy it happened the way it happened... so watch this page for more...

Till then... ROAR !!!!

16/11/07

Almost Lost

While eating my favorite Doritos and having Litchi Juice in a Pint Glass i write this post...

I almost lost him yesterday.. and why because of one simple reason.. i was not careful enough..

I am talking about a small plant with yellow flowers that i got for my room sometime back... the instructions said that i need to ensure that the soil is damp and moist and that it needs water once a week... i read the instructions and was happy to see the yellow flowers everyday in my room...


now what happens day before yesterday is that i come home and for some reason i had to change the place where i had kept this small plant... and i realised that it was dying... the stems were loose, the flowers dull, and leaves almost giving up...

i felt so bad about it and added some water quickly to it... maybe because the room is pretty warm the water had evaporated earlier than usual... but for whatever reasons, i was loosing my lovely yellow flower plant...

i checked it yesterday, and it was better... and today its looks as if its kinda improving... i hope it lives for some more time...

It forced me to think, as if it needs a trigger, but still, about people... don't we at times treat people like i treated this plant... they are good, we feel nice that they are there, we look at them feel good, they are around we feel happy... but miss out on that small attention that they need to stay that way... and also wonder when we loose people as to what went wrong...

I think that staying alone has made me more sensitive towards people that I care for, and at the same time makes me want more from people who I feel should take care of me... No, I am not looking for attention here, not at all... I can manage pretty well on my own... and am doing that too...

the crux of the post, that i wanted to write about, is that this incident just reminded me to do something, however small it may seem, for things that give me something... and not because i am returning a favor... but because I should...
And lights are coming up slowly all around... the one above are being put up on Lamp-posts in Horley, where I live...

28/08/07

Who Should I be scared of?

I believe that one single incident cannot really be good enough for anyone to pass a judgment about the entire country or a state for that matter, however with incidents like what happened in Gurgaon in the Honda Factory where hundreds of people were mercilessly beaten up by the policemen, the time when couple in Meerut were beaten by the policemen and policewomen for being together in a park... and now the dragging of a pickpocket in Bihar...

While I am sure that there is some action/ punishment required to straighten things up and the not so legal acts... but is this the right way? Are they trying to be heroes or something?

I would not be lying if I say that I am more scared by the police around me as compared to the criminals... At least the criminals keep into hiding, but the police can roam around freely doing what they want and the way they want...

And to add to an icing on the cake, there would usually be a few ppl suspended for beating the shit out of common people, and there would be a few people suspended (for shaking hands with Sanjay Dutt, when he is released on bail), there would be a group of people to enquire about the whole incident, and the opposition would ask the Chief Minister to resign and the incident would go on a completely different tangent...

Shameful and painful...

31/01/07

sToRiEs....

Abha's parents want her to get married before she leaves for the job she got selected for through her college campus placements... She says she does not want to get married and does not want to make her parents sad either... she does not know what to do.. she is sad, confused and frustrated... to add to the pain, she feels that she is still not out of her ex relationship....


Meera's parents also want her to get married... No idea if she likes anyone or she ever had an affair... she has not expressed her joy or sorrow whatever over the fact that her parents are looking for a match with her... Her parents are very worried over the effort that has not resulted in anything so far for over an year...


Abha's ex boyfriend claims that he loves her, but he is not in a position to get married to her... For reasons that he himself is aware of...


Meera's elder brother Nitesh is a chick magnet... he really liked girls and always had more than he could handle always around him...


Sakshi is a very ambitious girl... she has worked very hard to reach the position in her career where she is today... and maybe its too late for her to get married now... @ 32 she is finding it very difficult to find someone who would match her ability, who would understand her, who would be able to digest her success in her work... and she has no clue about how she would manage a home if at all she gets married...


Chetna is doing just fine in her office... she has a good job, she is a well paid manager, but not really doing that gives her a professional satisfaction the way she wants... she has figured out other ways to channelize her energy... and tries hard to be nicer and better... there are days when she looses it completely and things totally randomly, but then she gets back to her ownself.. and carries on...


Niti is seeing this guy who she kinda likes, but claims that its only a time pass "affair"... she just might be trying to fool herself with the entire thought process, and the guy might be adding to it...


Chetna does not like the guy Niti is seeing these days... she can strangle him any day....


Nitesh likes this girl... not for keeps types, but likes it.. but while she is a great person... she is not good in bed... and he does not know what to do about it....


Keep looking around... you will see more stories building up then you can imagine...


There always is something more to it....